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    my mummy friends and I discuss loads of topics, maybe just try changing the subject?

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    How old is your child?

    I have about 7 friends from mothers group who I keep in touch with. I guess with our first baby, we all had the same questions and our babies were the only thing we had in common.

    Now, 4 years later, we do talk about other things. We go out for dinner and have friendships outside our children.

    However, come to think of it, I do not know what music any of them like

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    Quote Originally Posted by Koberose View Post
    Oh god I'm not the only one!!!
    I'm pregnant with my first and already over the talks people don't ask me how I am any more they say "soo how's baby doing?" that is usually followed by the dreaded belly rub....
    Grrrrrrrrrrr!! Lol sorry just adding to the rant
    Me too!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by TimTamsandTea View Post
    Oh for the love of god, please tell me it ends?

    Please tell me that the topic of my neighbour's episiotomy is replaced with something a little less ... medical.

    Please tell me that I don't forever have to participate in the poll: How long did you breastfeed your child/ren for?

    Please tell me that other mummies will one day want to know my name and what music I like more than they want to know whether or not I slept alongside/smacked/vaccinated my young children.

    Please tell me that mummies stop asking their offspring to perform for other mummys and I no longer have to stand and watch the responses to the question: Now show mummy how you ....

    Please tell me that the topic of birth and parenting will eventually be discussed in addition to and not to the exclusion of other interesting or important topics.

    For once, I'd love to go out and chat with other women without the birthing or parenting stuff dominating conversation. How your child is birthed, how you feed your child and how you raise your child is important to you and those in your life that have a vested interest in you and your child. Why is there the assumption that anyone outside of this circle has the right to know or is interested?

    Gah!

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    Sooo glad I'm not the only one! Sometimes I just want to say can we talk about anything else besides kids! I love hanging out with my child free friends and getting some real interesting conversations, they know if we are having a night out there is to be no talk of children! Definitely agree with PP idea of getting them to go on a mums night out, wine will start excellent conversations!

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    I think it depends on your circle of friends.

    I've never had that issue with my mum friends - we've always talked about all sorts of things.

    I think Ishtyban's suggestion is a good one - setting an 'agenda' that is kid talk free!

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    Simple.. don't hang out with other mothers or mothers that do this? Geez, I find this post pretty sad really.. especially the other kids doing performances or plays or whatever for you. I hope if my DD ever did that to one of my friends they wouldn't be sitting there thinking "oh for the love of god kill me now".

    Honestly, if you don't like it than don't hang out with them. Hang out with other women that don't talk about kids.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Koberose View Post
    Oh god I'm not the only one!!!
    I'm pregnant with my first and already over the talks people don't ask me how I am any more they say "soo how's baby doing?" that is usually followed by the dreaded belly rub....
    Grrrrrrrrrrr!! Lol sorry just adding to the rant
    Gah i hate that question when pregnant! Im like ummm he is still in my uterus and still kicking so i guess he is happy?? Wtf. Lol.

    Sorry... Back to topic now :P

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    Mums of school kids are far more willing to have nights out without kids than mums of bubs.

    Although, we used to talk about more. Funny, the bubs group I went to was awful, all about putting down other people for whatever. Those who breastfeed were taking a gamble, you don't know the ingredients, you don't know how much they get. Those who ff didn't try hard enough. Those who had a c-section took the easy way out which is a cop out, those who had a natural birth put their body and baby through undue stress. I went twice. It was cattier than the girls competing in The Bachelor! So I went to ABA meetings and the only time birth came up was when one had complications during the time we were there. 20 hours of difficult labour, emergency c-section, baby not breathing, then infection in the wound and other things, she had it rough for months. Not one other birth came up, and hers only did because we were all there to and knew her. Of course we all bf, it's the ABA. There were discussion topics, but apart from that we talked about other things. Food, music, travel, hobbies, work.

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    I know exactly how you feel. I don't mind occasionally discussing birth/baby related matters but there comes a point when enough is enough. I've heard one particular birth story at playgroup at least 8 times now. No exaggeration. I could repeat it off by heart. I now have to tune out and go off to do something else whenever I hear the story start up yet again. It's a really longgggg one too. I get that births are exciting and people want to share their experiences with the rest of the world ... but I honestly don't understand this need to discuss it over and over and over again. Our kids are all fast approaching their 2nd birthdays so I reckon it's probably about time to move on!

    Fortunately for me it's only a small amount of parents (including one Dad believe it or not) that are really like this so I tend to avoid them and concentrate on talking to others instead.

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    My brother takes my nephew to all their activities. Not hard to believe a dad goes to playgroup.


 

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