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    Default Should we as adults should stand on our own 2 feet? *spin off*

    Do you think as adults we should learn to stand on our own two feet from a money perspective?
    Do you think gifts of money support and promote our ability to look after our families ourselves (emotionally) or do you think it hinders us in some way?
    Do you think financial support indebits family members to one another?

    These other threads have made me wonder how I would actually feel if another family member gave us money (it's never happened and it's not likely too) I've always thought it would be a lovely gift, a blessing but now I'm wondering if never having to really struggle would of made me the same person I am today? I'm not saying that those that have been given gifts aren't proud but I am proud that hubby and I have always managed to get through our troubles ourselves even if it did cause a lot of stress.

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    I think more or less , we as adults should learn to stand on our own two feet. However I think if occasionally we need a hand than that's ok too.

    What I don't believe is family members who enable each other to be financially irresponsible and catch them continuously when they muck up so to speak...

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    I think gifts are nice, but not to be expected or planned around.

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    I'm really glad my parents are in a position to help me as I cannot support myself and my child on $380 a week while I am studying. If they didn't, I would have had to give up custody of my child while I crashed on a friends couch.

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    I think it would be lovely, but life doesn't always go as planned. I think if parents want to help their kids (even if they are adults) then who are we to judge. And if you feel strongly that it isn't a good thing, then you can always say no.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ana Gram View Post
    I'm really glad my parents are in a position to help me as I cannot support myself and my child on $380 a week while I am studying. If they didn't, I would have had to give up custody of my child while I crashed on a friends couch.
    I think helping on that level is different from, say, paying a house off or giving someone a few grand as a gift. I would hope families would do what they could in that situation.

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    I think in most cases it's fine. DP was given an amount of money many years ago and still hasn't touched it.

    If it's Paris Hilton style, as in, giving your children everything then I don't think they learn the meaning of appreciating things that you've worked toward.

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    Quote Originally Posted by beebs View Post
    I think it would be lovely, but life doesn't always go as planned. I think if parents want to help their kids (even if they are adults) then who are we to judge. And if you feel strongly that it isn't a good thing, then you can always say no.
    Very true, I guess I'm thankful we have always made it to the other side our parents aren't in a position to financially support us but if everything fell apart I know that we could stay with my parents until we picked ourselves up

    Sorry this isn't a judgy wudgy thread just genuinely interested to hear others thoughts

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    Quote Originally Posted by share a book View Post
    I think helping on that level is different from, say, paying a house off or giving someone a few grand as a gift. I would hope families would do what they could in that situation.
    For sure

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    Quote Originally Posted by share a book View Post
    I think helping on that level is different from, say, paying a house off or giving someone a few grand as a gift. I would hope families would do what they could in that situation.
    They are giving me financial support though, which was part of the original question. I know the thread stemmed from the money gift thread but the OP expanded the questions to a broader base.


 

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