As the title suggests I'm just hoping to get some ideas on how to handle how we parent our child vs. my brother and his family.
As much as I adore my brother I have found that since he has had a family that I struggle to even visit them, they have 4 children now ranging from 6 years to 4 months and I love my little neices and nephews and so does our DS BUT while we are quite protective of DS I find that my brother and SIL quite lax (and I understand that everyone parents differently)...just a few examples to explain...
We went to visit the other day and my son wanted to scoot and my brother (who has a perfectly large yard to play in) asked his 6 year old to take my DS out the front to play and make sure he is ok. I was a little nervous so followed them out and my nephew was riding his bike up and down the road (not a dead end) and I had to keep stopping DS from going on the road which I then felt bad about as DS couldn't understand why he couldn't play on the road like his big cousins.
Last year I had a Tupperware party and my brother was away with work, the two older siblings were at their grandparents and my SIL was supposed to come along with her (then) 10 month old but she turned up without her and when I asked her at the door where my neice was she said that she had a temperature so she'd quickly left her at home and just wanted to give me some money for tupperware then was on her way home again! I quickly shoved her out the door to get home and told her not to worry about the party.
A few years ago they went camping and put the kids in one tent and themselves in another and in the middle of the night some people brought my niece back as she had wandered out of the tent!
Sorry I know this is long but because of our different parenting methods I really struggle with playdates and DS constantly wants to play with his cousins and they want him to spend the night etc but I'm just too scared about how things run at their house to ever stay long and I feel like my brother may feel like I'm judging them (I understand that I am) and I don't want to but how do you play with people who parent differently to yourself?