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    Default Is it okay to invite your self?

    Just wonder how other hubbers feel about parents/children inviting them self to your house for play dates or sleep overs?

    When I was younger we only ever called a friend to invite them over but never to ask if we could stay at theirs.

    I'm talking about kids you barely know or see not your best friends, cousins or close friends thats different because its usually give and take. I mean If you haven't really had much to do with the child and haven't really met the parent, like a school friend or friend from afterschool care/sports?

    We have a lady who (it feels as though) she uses people as a baby sitter or child care and it kind of bugs me.
    Weeks of not hearing from them and the kids aren't that close and then bam can I come over


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    I had a boy from my daughters class just turn up on our door step and ask if she can go play with him. I was a little surprised. I've never met this kid or his parents and he wanted to go roaming the streets with my 11yr old daughter. Um no thx!

    I started to feel like a babysitter for another one of her friends. Her friend would come to visit quite alot compared to how much DD visited her friends house. Alot of that was because of the friends annoying brother though.

    At the start we used to take turns and I think thats alot easier and keeps things fair.

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    Nooo way! Even my best friend and I always organise in advance our kids playdates. Even if it's just a quick text or phone call...

    Even family I like to let us know if they're coming over. I want to be able to do a quick clean, put some clothes on, make sure I have food/drinks etc

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    it's fine with me...kids ask if they can come over and ds asks if he can go to others places.

    they are asking...i (and the other parent) can say yes or no and/or pick a time/day.

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    Quote Originally Posted by smileygirl View Post
    it's fine with me...kids ask if they can come over and ds asks if he can go to others places.

    they are asking...i (and the other parent) can say yes or no and/or pick a time/day.
    True, I guess it just bugs me that she only seems to call if she needs something

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    No way. I always call before hand or pre arrange on text/FB days before.

    I expect the same in return.

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    Quote Originally Posted by babybumblebee View Post
    True, I guess it just bugs me that she only seems to call if she needs something

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    Do you make an effort to contact her in between?
    Maybe she doesn't have many people she can ask for support.

    On a side note as a kid I used to HATE asking someone if I could go to their house to play but I didn't want anyone at my house because I was embarrassed by how messy it was. As a result I only really hung out with my best friend out of school. Now I don't care if someone asks me to come to my house because at least I still get to see them and I live in my own house so any mess is my fault and a lot less than when I was young.

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    Nah I always text/call my friends or send a message on FB. Even my closest friends....

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    Quote Originally Posted by babybumblebee View Post
    True, I guess it just bugs me that she only seems to call if she needs something

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    so it's more that this person is not really wanting to see you...but dropping her kids off and leaving them?

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    I wondered what other people do/think is acceptable in regards to play dates.
    the person Irl that makes me ask this question only speaks to my family to arrange a sleep over for her DD I thought it was rude to call looking for a sleep over when we barely know them.

    She calls randomly like say 5x a year and we don't speak outside of her asking.
    Its not a big deal if I can't have her DD I just say no.

    It just made me wonder what others feel is acceptable...

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