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    Quote Originally Posted by bumMum View Post
    Harmless vent has been ruined. Ugh. Re read the op. She didn't say one single nasty thing about stay at home mums.

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    The OP I'm not really annoyed at. It's the other nasty comments in this thread I'm referring to.

    The OP's friend is allowed to vent. The OP is allowed to vent. But some of the comments in this thread are pretty yucky.

    Just over the competition

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    Firstly please let me clarify- I am not attacking all SAHMs here. I am just having a bit of a vent about my friend who constantly whines about how hard she has it. It bothered me this morning when I was up at 5am getting ready to come to work. Maybe I should de-friend her.

    delirium- thank you for your well thought-out reply. But I say to you, its not a choice. For many of us. I'm not going to get into our personal circumstances on here, but I will tell you we rent a very small unit, we don't go out, we don't have an ipad or a flat screen tv. I work part-time because the extra few hundred I earn means we can eat.

    Beebs- Yes I have been a SAHM. My husband and I lived with my parents so that we could afford to live on one wage. It was extremely hard but we did it for a year because I felt it was important to be at home with our child. When my second baby was born I was at home for a few months until our savings ran out.

    Munchies Mummy- If my kids were sick as dogs, I would be at home with them, doing exactly the same things as you are. Daycare doesn't like it when you bring sick children in.

    I'm pretty new to this whole forum thing. I thought that I was posting this in a section where it would be read by other working mums, I didn't realise so many SAHMs would be on here. My apologies if I have offended anyone, it really was not intended.

    Anyway, time for me to head back to the milking shed...
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    I am a working mum for 8 months of the year and a SAHM for 4 months...and I whinge about both Wouldn't it be nice if one day, mums could support each other where they need support without making it about themselves.

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    I'm really sorry you are in such a bad position OP and I totally understand why you are feeling angry and upset. I went back to work when my eldest was 5 months to about 15 months. I did on average about 30 hours a week and it tore my heart out.

    Love to you, you a still a great mum

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    The OP I'm not really annoyed at. It's the other nasty comments in this thread I'm referring to.

    The OP's friend is allowed to vent. The OP is allowed to vent. But some of the comments in this thread are pretty yucky.

    Just over the competition
    I agree. I'm sick of the competition too - though I notice it more here than IRL. We are all just Mums doing the best we can. Who cares if you work or stay at home. If our kids are fed and happy at the end of the day, that's all that matters.

    OP, if you don't want to see your friends posts, hide them! It's her FB page and she's allowed to say whatever she likes. But you don't have to read it.

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    You did not offend personally, I think it just comes up under new posts , people read the title and go " what !!!" especially if they are having a bad day . Don't feel people are having a go at you , its just the age old battle of the mothers "YAWN" ......... I hope in the future you will be able to work less xx

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    The Thomas-in-your-bag made me laugh though. I remember fishing in my bag for my security pass one morning and fishing out muesli bars, wipes, baby socks and.....the Thomas I'd spent all night looking for. Only the other working mums (and dads) appreciated what a relief it was to find that little blue train!

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    The OP I'm not really annoyed at. It's the other nasty comments in this thread I'm referring to.

    The OP's friend is allowed to vent. The OP is allowed to vent. But some of the comments in this thread are pretty yucky.

    Just over the competition
    Yes I agree I don't like the mummy wars either. But the op was specifically upset about some of her friends... Not all stay at home mums.. and it IS hard having to work when you want to be at home with your kids. I remember returning to work with my first. I cried ALL DAY.
    Me personally.. I wouldnt say I have no idea what stay at home mums do all day.. I do know and it isn't all pyjama parties and play dates.
    Many of us simply can NOT downgrade our lifestyles any further or find some way to become a stay at home mum. It isnt possible. I hear this from people here and in real life and it gets tiring justifying why you work. As I'm sure as children get older it gets tiring explaining why you aren't going to be returning to work.

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    OP I have been both a SAHM and now work fulltime. I have never felt appreciated as a mum, I don't think many mums at all are truly appreciated for everything we do and everything we give up.

    I don't get holidays in the true sense of the word. I'm on "holidays" from work bow and I consider myself doing the role of a SAHM. I am catching up on the things I don't generally have time to.

    I find being a mum in general is demanding. My jobs never end. They didn't when I was at home either. I think all mums have every right to have a bit of a vent from time to time.

    I think there are unhelpful stereotypes thrown at us all. "Working mums just haven't sacrificed, they don't need to work" (could you imagine someone saying that to a father?) and "what do SAHMs need a break from?"..... Of course, because raising children isn't demanding

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    Come on, this is a post in a working parent's section where the OP just wants to have a bit of a vent. It's a bit mean not to let her! It's also unfair to turn this into an 'us against them' discussion when it is specifically posted in the working mum's section.

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