I think this is very true. I have to admit, i can kind of understand in part where the OP is coming from. I know a few SAHM's (3 or 4) who haven't worked for years, that continually update their FB status's saying how hard everything is. Some of them update their FB status 3 or 4 times a day, and check into places all day long and i wonder if you are so busy and tired, why do you have so much time to be on fb. Or sometimes i talk to them and all they do is whinge. It's probably like everything, only a select few who do not represent the majority of SAHMs.
I know a lot of SAHMs who love being home and hardly ever complain, i also have a lot of close friends who work (full time and part time) and juggle that around their kids and they are super busy and they hardly ever whinge about it.
As said, everyone deserves to have a vent, i guess you never can tell what is really going on in someone's life. I'd suggest getting rid of these people on your FB if you find it annoying. Maybe time for a cull, i know i need to do one.
Last edited by Clementine Grace; 05-07-2012 at 11:13.
I find this post really refreshing and long overdue. I had to go back to work. You don't HAVE to be a sahm. And true, this is in the WORKING PARENTS section so let us have our winge. My favourite is the sahm's who say "I would never dream of having someone else raise my kids" Well for some it's not a choice!
Although right now I am laying in bed recovering from surgery to remove stage 4 endo and it's been good to be able to book in appts etc without having to worry about taking time off work etc.
I agree. But your first comment said this:
"I have no idea why SAHM's ( some not all) whinge so much. Like you I have a friend who never has to work again but constantly whines about how hard it is, how tired and stressed she is and how she never has time to do anything. After having 6 months off I still have no idea what SAHM'S do all day."
(Sorry - don't know how to multi quote over more than one page).
I'm sure you can see why there might be a few SAHMs feeling that the above comments DO make it sound like a competition!
The OP is entitled to vent. But so is her friend. TBH, I defy anyone to say that they have NEVER complained about what they do at some point. Whether that's a complaint about work being hard, or about the children being difficult, or about being tired with no rest, or the weather being bad...
We all need to vent. And I do understand how it can sting when someone vents about a situation you would dearly love to be in. (I'm thinking of my TTC journey here, and listening to people complain about kids/ accidental pregnancies).
The SAHMs I know who vent a lot on facebook are not simply whinging for the sake of it. They are reaching out because they aren't coping. Not everyone breezes through parenting,whether working or not. Everyone needs support sometimes, but facebook unfortunately makes it all too easy to complain and hope someone offers support rather than actually call a friend for a sympathetic ear, which would work better.
It's obvious all SAHMs sit on their lazy bums all day in pajamas eating crap while facebooking and bubhubing, meanwhile their house and children get increasingly neglected. Oh, the life.
ETA: I'm being sarcastic, I myself am a SAHM.
Last edited by Guest1234; 05-07-2012 at 12:17.
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