Hunbun, that is seriously worth a shot. Not sure if it would fit correctly, but I'm sure we could do something to make it work (or at least give it a try!). Me&MrMagoo... your post hit a spot for me. We too, were told by Karitane that there was nothing more they could do to help us, and even the nurses gave up trying to resettle him. But your last sentence - just makes sense. I think, I will continue to put him in his cot to sleep (and he does well at first), then when he starts waking continuously then put him into bed with me (will try the sidecarring - will definitely be more comfortable!). I know that the others with premmie babies - will also know how tough they do it at the start - so the reminder that if it's what he needs, then it's perhaps the way we should go is a good one. It's so easy to get caught up in the 'they should be' mentally, and following routines and doing the right things by them, that sometimes it gets a little lost that they aren't just 'spoilt' (yes I've heard that many, many times), and maybe it's just what he does need right now. It surely is the only thing that is working for us at the moment... maybe that should tell us something! A question for those that co sleep full time - how did that affect their day time sleeps? My son has no trouble at all going off to sleep on his own (initially) and watching me leave the room - day or night, but just wondering why it's only in the middle of the night that (if it is separation issues) that it's occuring then and not at other times?