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    I think you should do what feels right for you and your child. I completely understand where your coming from as my partner and i are in the process of discussing something similar for ourselves in regards to our hospital stay and having visitors wait until we are home before seeing bub, so that we have a chance to get to know our baby and rest without the pressure of being watched and having unwanted input from family and friends.
    If you feel you will need six weeks take it , in the end the great thing about being a parent is when you make decisions regarding the health , safety and well being of your kids its your decision that matters and other people will just have to respect that. Good Luck i hope it all works out for you

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    If I had another kid..or was having a kid in winter I would stay home and have only family visit for 6 weeks....

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    I'm completely antisocial anyway, so I had a tough time with people just assuming that they could show up at the hospital or my house unannounced, like I was running a carnival.

    This time around I'm going to refuse hospital visitors, and send out a mass FB post with pictures of the baby saying that we're recovering at home and will tell everyone when we're ready for visitors.

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    Although I think 6 weeks is a very long time, I do believe your friends and family should respect your wishes. I would send out a text with pics and thanking everyone for their well wishes etc, and just say you will let people know when you are ready for visitors as you're recovering from surgery etc. then I'd also put a note on your door thanking people for visiting/kind wishes, but that you are not yet ready for visitors but feel free to leave a message. Also leave the same message on your voicemail- " thanks for calling ...., we really appreciate the warm wishes on the birth if our son/daughter....., we are all well, enjoying out time together as a family and look forward to having visitors in the weeks to come, we'll let you know when we're ready. Please leave a message after the tone".
    Good luck

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    Everyone should accept your wishes but I think 6 weeks us a long time to keep family away.

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    Thanks for the fantastic ideas Annabella,they are really helpful and just what I was after, a nice tactful way to put my feelings to prevent people from being hurt. Immediate family will be able to visit but not at hospital and not immediately at home but I think I will be limiting it to those family members who choose to get their whooping cough vaccine and I don't want anyone near us if they are sick. I am thinking of limiting the amount of visits as I don't want to be part of a circus as someone else stated they felt their home had turned into. I am a fairly quiet mildly reclusive person as it is and I think visitors even family really need to respect that it is major surgery, it will be winter where there is a lot more sickness around and that my older DD needs to adjust as well and that I won't have people fussing over bub and not her, she is struggling with the whole new baby thing as it is and I won't have her feelings hurt by thoughtless comments. It's important for the four of us to have bonding time especially for my older DD and the new baby.

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    Not long now Maple...... I've got two weeks left max myself. You are doing nothing wrong by putting your wishes across tactfully. A nice answering machine message, text and/or Facebook announcement are great ideas (I might use variations myself!!).

    The winter season is not an easy time to have a bub without factoring in a csec. I have had some thoughts on who I'd like to come to the hospital etc and I've decided to keep it to immediate family but not on the first day as I want my bonding time with my girls. I have one close friend who would be at the hospital an hr after birth (she was with my first lol) but I've asked her to save her visit for the next day and she was fine with this. Just asked for a txt when bub was actually born.

    The illness and specifically whooping cough worry me most so I have put the word out that if you have a runny nose and/or a cough to stay away and everyone has been fine. I don't plan to be housebound for the first month or so I'd like to enjoy the occasional sunny day if we have them by going for a walk with DD1 to the park etc.

    Everyone makes different plans do what suits you. Hopefully you will bounce back from the surgery quicker than you think

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    Yeah just make sure say something and make it blunt. I couldn't get over how many people visited me with snotty and coughing kids etc. I would never do that. Also had people I didn't know that well - work colleagues (and male ones at that)- turning up at the hospital unannounced after 7pm. I couldn't believe it!! Definitely going to write our announcement text differently this time. Possibly a bit naive with first Bub hehe. There's a whooping cough outbreak in WA at the moment - or so I'm told - so I am also a bit worried this time. Hopefully October will be a little more germ free.

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    Perfectly normal boundary for you to set - family or not, it is a time for your little family to recover and bond, not for others to feel entitled to meet your baby.
    Ive recently had my second bub and struggled with what to say to people. 6 weeks is not long in my opinion at all, I am 9 weeks postpartum and have only just started getting out and about and seeing friends, although I had complications after the birth. I also am shocked how many of my friends want to hang out with snotty kids considering I have a newborn as well as a toddler. A sick baby or siblings would not make for a happy household IMO.
    In saying that I did have 2 people come to visit that I invited - my Mum and a cherished family friend - being sick I needed lots of help and emotional support too as my DH returned to work straight away. And they are both people that I am 110% comfortable with
    Hope it all works out for you OP, good luck!

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    I agree with a PP about your family and friends respecting your decision/choice but 6 wks is a long time to be keeping family away.

    The suggestion to keep the date vague is far better. Ie "when we are up for visitors" etc


 

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