I have been worrying about this for most of my pregnancy, I am due next month and I am not keen on having visitors during the first 6 weeks after my baby is born. Friends have made comments about their eagerness to see baby when they are born but I feel like it should be a quiet time for family bonding and I don't want to risk bubs getting sick during the early weeks, my SIL is quite pushy about coming to see the 'new' baby and they have put off an earlier trip so they can come when baby is a newborn. I am having a c-sect and I also feel like i need time to rest and heal without feeling like I have to act normal and entertain visitors. There will also be an 8 year gap between my older child and new baby and I feel like my older DD will need space to adjust and bond with the new arrival aswell without excess jealousy from visitors fussing over the new one when they have fussed over her for so long. I just don't want the pressure but I don't know how to put it across without offending some people or coming across like a weirdo, when I just want some space early on.