My kids are my life, so yeah they are planned into it. I organize things around sleeps, I don't randomly let them stay up at night. We occasionally go out to dinner with them, but to be honest I'd rather go out to dinner without them so more often we will get a babysitter. My life revolves around my children, but I fit my stuff in too - like exercise, catching up with friends etc. There is zero benefit to me in not giving my kids their daily naps, home cooked dinners, early to bed time etc so I only don't do it when there is a birthday party or something special to go to.