DP and I had planned on TTC at home (turkey baster style ) with known donor sperm but our donor backed out. So we started budgeting for IUDI at a clinic and were planning on TTC in Dec this year.
Today one of my very close gay male friends offered to donate to us if we are interested. I am, I really am. I was *so* disappointed when known donor 1 backed out, because I loved the idea of doing it at home with DP rather than in a clinic and now I don't know... I do want that, and the $$$ is a massive bonus and I do like the idea of having that sense of knowing the donor, also giving my friend the chance to have that although he wouldn't be 'dad' but maybe Uncle J...or something.
But I also have grown to like the idea of anonymity and a clinic.
I also have to think about what would potentially be better for future child (bearing in mind I have a raft of abandonment issues c/o of my bio father). Also, the fact that we could start trying once everything including STIs etc have been checked out is tempting and it's not bound by costs.
So just wanted some thoughts please.
DPs at work and I messaged her telling her what my mate said but she hasn't replied so I'm overthinking everything until she does!