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    Default Any Mammas pulled rank?

    Any Mammas out there pulled rank over their husband when it came to choosing baby's name?
    For our first two daughters we took turns naming them because we couldn't agree on anything. Now we are having our third and final baby. I am concerned that we are going to disagree again.
    So I am considering saying "I have to birth our child so I get to choose"
    Any one done this?

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    I have a strong dislike for this kind of stance, just because you birth a baby does not give you a higher importance over your DH!!

    I think a name should be a joint decision - if you can't agree exactly then compromise!!!

    I didn't love DS2s name but it was the name I liked most out of names my DH suggested - now its his name I love it as its his!

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    No...I think that's a bit of a cr@ppy thing to do actually

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    No - I don't think I could really want to use a name DH didn't love as well.

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    We'd agred totally on our names, and my partner said 'ok' to my boy having my dad's middle name as a second middle name, along with a first middle one that we both liked from his family tradition. He'd forgotten he said yes to this second name, and upped an eyebrow whan I put it on the birth rego, but I said sorry, you've already agreed, that's what we'd decided (he has an AWFUL memory), and that was it. He makes fun of it and rolls eyeballs now whenever bub's middle names are mentioned! I wouldn't have bothered holding him to it or adding it to the register if he hadn't already agreed. It was in my head though, as bub's name, and that was that. It also makes his whole name sound more complete and rounded, as it half-rhymes with the names on either side.

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    It was never an issue for me and DH, I chose both names and he liked them so we went with them... I don't know what I would have done if we didn't agree. I guess I would have kept searching for a name we could both agree upon... Maybe sit down together with your names you both like and talk about why you do or don't like them and see if you can come to an agreement??? Maybe you could pick first name and he could pick the middle name??

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    DH and I couldn't 100% agree on DD name. I liked the first name but didn't love it, DH loved it. So I chose her middle name as a compromise. Now I love DD first name, I can't imagine her named anything else.

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    I did, with DS1s name. DH and I had very different tastes and I had an overwhelming desire and urge to give DS1 a certain name.

    DH hated the name, we kept looking for names, but in the end, his name just HAD to be this name, it's something I can't really describe, but any other name for him would have been wrong. So I "pulled rank" on his first name and DH decided to pass on his middle name for DS1s middle name. DH has no regrets about DS1s name, and agreed once he was born, it was a perfect fit

    *I can haz typos*

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    I have two arguments for having final say on name:

    1. I have to carry and push the baby out; and
    2. The baby has his surname, and if he wants final say on the first name, then the baby can take my surname and he can choose the first name.

    Plus, I'm the bossier of us. I would never insist on something he hated though.

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    No been pretty firm on that we both have to love the name. I couldnt bare it if DP hated or disliked a name I chose for my child. And IF I ever did 'pull rank' dd1 or dd2 would have been called Tigerlily lol.


 

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