I hope this is posted in the right section. I've posted about this before so sorry if you've already seen it.
I have two exes - ex 1, I'm currently spending time with, I wouldn't really class it as a relationship as yet but it's heading that way. And omg it's freaking me out. I need to end it before it goes any further because I know I don't feel the same way as he does. This will be the third time we've broken up, with me being the instigator every time. I just can't feel anything for him anymore and I shouldn't have kept going back. I know it's horrible and I'm leading him on at the moment, I feel really guilty about it.
Ex 2, I still love and miss terribly. I know there's no chance there and I'll get over it in time. He left me.
I think I need to forget about men altogether for a while and concentrate on myself cos there's a few issues I need to work on. I feel a bit 'past it' at 26 (I know that's silly) and like I've blown everything, you know, I'll never meet anyone else. But I can't keep this thing going, I need to stop it before it goes any further.
I guess I'm asking for advice - is there any way I can soften the blow? I'm thinking I'll give myself a deadline of Monday at the latest. What do I say though, I'm thinking it's a bad idea to admit I still love ex 2. I don't want to give him any hope that there'll be another chance though. I don't want to hurt him but the longer it goes on the worse it'll be. I feel so horrible