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    Default I can't control my kids

    Ok I admit it. I'm a terrible mother and I can't control my kids. My kids walk all over me and I've had it.
    My kids are 6,4,3,1. My 6 yo has autism and ADHD.
    Today was it. I had to go to the shops with all 4. And the whole time was fighting, arguing, yelling, screaming. It got so bad I ignore it and wanted to shrivel up under a rock.
    My kids are always loud and my 4yo is the worst for her tantrums.
    I need serious help on how to discipline especially out in public cause my kids just don't hear me.
    Please help. I'm constantly getting abuse and bad verbal comments from strangers and I've had it.

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    I forgot to add. I can discipline if I'm out with only one child. I can handle that. But it's handling all 4 who are all out of control

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    Go and see you child health nurse to get referred to a parenting course.

    I did triple p, and it changed my life!

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    I'm sorry you're having a hard time. My three year old is driving me mad. I actually really wanted to leave her in the centre we were in today. I'm sure I would have missed her eventually though...
    I've have a good psychologist that works in parent/ child stuff and she's helping me try to get some kind of order in the mayhem.
    Might be worth seeing someone for some help, even just for your own headspace.

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    I have a life that sounds like yours. I did triple p and it is so stressful. Probably great for one child but near impossible for a mum who is dealing with 4 difficult children. I have no answer for you but I want you to know you are not alone and just the fact that you know you need to find a better way shows you are not a bad mummy just a stressed one.

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    I did the triple p and wasn't much help especially for my son.
    I have started seeing a psychologist to help with parenting.
    I've tried time out stuff but never work I guess I need to find the right method and stick to it.

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    I second the parenting course, I did one in 123 magic and it gave me lots of tools for those tough days. I struggle with two out in public, so I can only imagine how tough it is with 4, don't feel bad. there's nothing wrong with picking professional brains for parenting tips and tricks (which is what a parenting course is)

    ETA just read your update, keep asking around, if you feel a parenting course is not what you need there will still be other resources that can help you : hugs:

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    that sounds really difficult. I'm sure you're doing a great job - taking 4 kids to the shops, one with ADHD and autism and two toddlers and a preschooler - that's a huge challenge! Im sorry that you get such judgement from others- most people don't underatand ADHD or autism, and they think its just naughty kids or a lack of discipline - not true! Maybe other parents of kids with special needs could give advice in this area, but I know as a school teacher, I have gone to courses about how to best help children in my class who have ADHD or autism, how to avoid meltdowns and avoid situations where they get out of control, etc - I wonder if there is something similar for parents where they can give you strategies for helping your child? If there is a special needs teacher at your 6yo's school, perhaps they may be able to help and point you in the direction of some helpful resources that you can access?

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    I second the triple parenting program - sign up and do one, it will give you practical tips on how to deal with a tough situation.

    I have two kids, a 2 yr old and a 10 month old. If I hadn't been studying developmental psychology this semester I think I would have lost my mind - it taught me alot about discipline and managing kids stress. What you are going through is normal, you are not a bad mum, you are just going through an extremely trying time and you will pull through by arming yourself with knowledge and support through a course like triple p. contact your local council to find out if they are available in your area.

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