I've known this woman for about 14 years now, and our relationship is more about me helping her then anything else. She doesn't have a family(long-story) and a myraid of health issues. I met her through a previous church I was attending. She is in her early 50's and has some health issues.
I've helped her on an off over the years(sometimes having to stop because she has become abusive)
But the last two years she hasn't been too bad.
Earlier this year my FIL passed away and she had called me and DH to ask her fill out the DSP forms(she was applying for Disability support).
So, while we were grieving(and busy trying to organise the funeral) we sacraficed a few hours to help her.
She was fortunate to receive benefits and I was happy that she did.
But she turned around and whinged to me because her rent had gone up as a result of receiving more monies.
She has another lady helping her(I know this lady) and recently she was telling me that she was angry with this lady. Long story short but this other lady(who I also know) does a lot more for her then me. She buys her things(provides for her financially, takes her to appts, takes her shopping, etc).
She doesn't drive(has had a knee replacement and relies on this other lady a great deal.
She went on to call her a "F*&)#*#*S B*)(($) and wished that she would get sick! I was a bit taken back and told her she shouldn't speak like this!!
We were concerned for the welfare of the other friend so I phoned her to let her know what she had said.
Friend said to me that they had resolved the problem. She then went on to tell me that this lady(the one we help)says some really nasty, horrible things about me.
While it doesn't surprise me, I was a bit shocked considering the sacrafices DH and I have made to help her(esp. helping her with DSP forms).
This woman phones me nearly every 2nd day and I have NOT answered her calls after learning this.
I do have compassion for her but I am wondering if I should continue my support knowing that she says these things behind my back!!