Parenting alone since 2003
You are misunderstanding me. In my previous posts I apologised to the OP that my thread had influenced her to question whether she could trust Child Care Centre educators. I have encouraged her to NOT be turned off by my own experiences, and made recommendations as to what she can do to find a wonderful Centre for her child. I should have clarified my statement with "In my opinion"... but I thought I was making that obvious by making the "I" bold. I went on to say that there WERE wonderful male carers currently working in Centres, but I had unfortunately lost all faith in males working in child care. Again, I intended to own that.
My intent in making these comments is not to prevent male child carers from working - or to stereotype them as paedophiles - I know that's not the case. I only hope to caution parents to trust in themselves IF they don't feel right about someone working in a Centre - male or female. If I had listened to my husbands gut feelings and listened to the alarm bells, I wouldn't be having this conversation right now.
My statement that men have no place in Child Care is an emotional statement, as Share a Book picked up on, coming from a parent who is suffering from guilt, self-reproach and fear. I hope that one day I CAN once again embrace the beliefs I've had over the last 20 years and feel confident enough to place my child with a male carer.
But males make up a larger percentage of sexual offenders with kids, don't they? That could explain some parents having reservations (not saying its right except for the lady in this thread because after what's she's been through with her kids daycare I think she can feel however she wants to).
I live in a small town and was lucky enough to a) know the carers/centres reputation through the grapevine, and friends who worked there and b)work on the campus so was able to drop by anytime.
Apart from family Im very picky about who watches my kids (I would never have trusted mil to watch dd, or any of DHs extended family (except 1 aunty and 1 cousin)
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