I have a 'spirited' child. I did the Spirited Child quiz online and he scored in the 'spirited' category after only a few questions! I have heard great things about the Raising Your Spirited Child, 1,2,3 Magic, and Children Are People Too books and I'm happy to go out and buy them if they are honestly worth it? Or are they just a waste of money for people who are at their wits ends to buy in the vain hope that there will be some miracle cure for difficult kids?
I have Dr Green's Toddler Taming, and The 'No Cry' Discipline Solution and a few baby based ones that have been lent to me over the last year and I haven't found them very helpful. I have also done a 2 hour seminar with Triple P, but all of these I found to be pretty useless. My DS is the kind of kid who you do all the obvious, basic methods with, and then say "so, what do you do if none of that works?" The Triple P lady sent us to a behavioural paed, who said that he's perfectly fine (as in no clinical behavioural issue to diagnose) and offered me some more useless tips that I already do.
Is the 1,2,3 Magic idea just when you say, for example, "Johnny, taking that toy off your sister is not nice, please give it back to her and find something else" Johnny says "NO!" Mummy says "I'm going to count to three and if you don't give it back you will won't be doing/having X ....1....2.....3" ????