PND - now what?

**Alphabetsoup** · 30-06-2012 00:03

Huge hugs. Thank you ladies. First time in a looong time that my tears are not from despair!

I have had a really hard time today, I keep getting so angry! I have never been an angry person and its so overwhelming.

DP cops the worst of it, even for stupid stuff. Eg, she slept in this morning when I really just wanted to hang out with her. And now she is snoring and I just wanna scream!

Then tonight before she went to sleep I asked her to turn her lamp off (DS and I both struggle to sleep with any light on). Nope, she went to sleep with it on. No big deal but i got so mad that I had to get up and turn it off.

I also get really angry at myself for stupid things. Like when DS is having trouble latching on to the breast (probably because I'm so stressed about it).

So sick of being so angry! DS is the only thing that keeps me going, he is the only person/thing I don't get angry at.

Psychologist called back and said she isn't taking new patients so I have been looking up others online and will call tomorrow. So hard to do. I need to talk though, I feel like I have so much weighing me down, its hard to breathe sometimes.

Tatiana, what is a mother and babies unit? How do I find one in my area?

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**SugarSkull** · 30-06-2012 20:42

Did you GP give you the referral for that psychologist? Maybe ask for another referral for somebody who deals with with PND.
Being angry is a part of PND, yes. With the right treatment, things will get better. *Hugs* if you ever have any questions or just want to talk, please don't hesitate to send me a PM : ) xx

**Tatiana28** · 01-07-2012 16:07

Originally Posted by miss87

Huge hugs. Thank you ladies. First time in a looong time that my tears are not from despair!

I have had a really hard time today, I keep getting so angry! I have never been an angry person and its so overwhelming.

DP cops the worst of it, even for stupid stuff. Eg, she slept in this morning when I really just wanted to hang out with her. And now she is snoring and I just wanna scream!

Then tonight before she went to sleep I asked her to turn her lamp off (DS and I both struggle to sleep with any light on). Nope, she went to sleep with it on. No big deal but i got so mad that I had to get up and turn it off.

I also get really angry at myself for stupid things. Like when DS is having trouble latching on to the breast (probably because I'm so stressed about it).

So sick of being so angry! DS is the only thing that keeps me going, he is the only person/thing I don't get angry at.

Psychologist called back and said she isn't taking new patients so I have been looking up others online and will call tomorrow. So hard to do. I need to talk though, I feel like I have so much weighing me down, its hard to breathe sometimes.

Tatiana, what is a mother and babies unit? How do I find one in my area?

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The one I went to was a sleep settling school and some where for mums not coping or with depression. It was the best thing for me. You see your psych every day and have group sessions and relaxation etc. music sessions for the hubs too. They had midwives to help with baby and feeding etc.
The one I went to was private, in Melb. But there are public ones around too, although harder to get into. You need a referral to go from your go. They might be able suggest one near you, or google. Sure you'll find one, which area are you in?

**Happymum2** · 01-07-2012 16:17

Originally Posted by Tatiana28

The one I went to was a sleep settling school and some where for mums not coping or with depression. It was the best thing for me. You see your psych every day and have group sessions and relaxation etc. music sessions for the hubs too. They had midwives to help with baby and feeding etc.
The one I went to was private, in Melb. But there are public ones around too, although harder to get into. You need a referral to go from your go. They might be able suggest one near you, or google. Sure you'll find one, which area are you in?

Also speak to your MCHN they have contacts for mother and baby units.

**Alphabetsoup** · 02-07-2012 15:39

Think you guys, I will see how i go. I feel stupid because some days I am fine, just a little irritable. Then other days I am a crazy angry psychopath. I am so difficult to be around right now, poor DP.

Umm probably a stupid question but what's a MCHN?

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**Happymum2** · 02-07-2012 16:20

Originally Posted by miss87

Think you guys, I will see how i go. I feel stupid because some days I am fine, just a little irritable. Then other days I am a crazy angry psychopath. I am so difficult to be around right now, poor DP.

Umm probably a stupid question but what's a MCHN?

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Maternal child health nurse.

**Alphabetsoup** · 02-07-2012 19:12

Originally Posted by Happymum2

Maternal child health nurse.

Ok I definitely don't have one of those. Argh I fell so dumb, I have no idea what I am doing!

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**Happymum2** · 02-07-2012 19:32

No, don't feel dumb. I live in Vic but am pretty sure it's Australia wide. When you were discharged from hospital, you should have been given a book for baby's check up with nurse. If you give your local council a call they should have details of MCHN in your area. They mostly check on baby's progress but also offer help for mums with pnd. My nurse started with a home visit when DS was 2weeks old, then I would go to the centre for routine check ups on bubs. They also did my mums group (6weeks at the centre, then we all just caught up every week, such a good support).

Hope this helps, feel free to pm me if you want anymore info.

**Alphabetsoup** · 03-07-2012 12:15

Thank you

I will google today.

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**missybubble** · 03-07-2012 12:31

Originally Posted by diesal444

Definitely try all avenues of self help but don't feel bad if you have to go on AD's
Depression is an illness that can get progressively worse if left untreated.
Just like any illness you must do things to help yourself but sometimes medication will help you as well.
I'm on AD's for PND and they have saved my life and more importantly saved my relationship with my baby.
Whichever path you take just take care of yourself and remember it will pass xxxx hugs!

Absolutely - I know it's not ideal to take drugs and you would much rather avoid it but sometimes it's a necessary evil. Just like taking medication for high blood pressure for instance.

I don't have any experience with PND, just depression, and in my case I'll stay on the ADs forever because I have an illness that won't go away without them. I've tried coming off them a few times and it's so not worth it for me because I sink right back into the depths of despair. It's so easy to forget how you once felt once you are feeling normal again.

I'm really not trying to scare you or anything but should you have to take ADs, it really isn't the end of the world. I'd much rather be medicated and living a normal life than any degree of depression. Quality of life - depression takes that away from you.

You will feel better though and won't be able to recall just how bad it was, it'll be a distant memory. I wish you all the best

xx