+ Reply to Thread
Page 5 of 6 FirstFirst ... 3456 LastLast
Results 41 to 50 of 55
  1. #41
    Join Date
    Nov 2011
    Posts
    29
    Thanks
    2
    Thanked
    3
    Reviews
    0
    I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I agree with PP, definitely get in touch with the police and make contact with the Victims of crime scheme in your state. They will be able to offer you support and many of the services will assist with organizing counseling. I see you are in QLD? Have a look at the Victims assist website http://www.justice.qld.gov.au/justic...ist-queensland

  2. #42
    Join Date
    May 2012
    Posts
    1,244
    Thanks
    600
    Thanked
    367
    Reviews
    4
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Well, theoretically, if he is out in the community he would be subject to some form of supervision. that would be ideal on terms of employment as they would be hyper vigilant in relation to his employment bearing in mind that he accessed his victims this way in the first place. I know that's of little consolation

  3. #43
    Join Date
    May 2012
    Posts
    1,244
    Thanks
    600
    Thanked
    367
    Reviews
    4
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    He would also be on the child protection register but unfortunately if he moves interstate they currently have no way of linking them.

  4. #44
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    Location
    Brisbane
    Posts
    190
    Thanks
    10
    Thanked
    18
    Reviews
    0
    Quote Originally Posted by Ezzabee View Post
    He would also be on the child protection register but unfortunately if he moves interstate they currently have no way of linking them.
    Are you SERIOUS??? The system isn't linked across states. That is so f&$@ing ridiculous. The system is set up to fail.

  5. #45
    Join Date
    Jun 2010
    Posts
    8,806
    Thanks
    7,267
    Thanked
    9,720
    Reviews
    5
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Ezzabee View Post
    He would also be on the child protection register but unfortunately if he moves interstate they currently have no way of linking them.
    They have Crimtrac- from the Caslon website:
    At the federal level a National Sex Offender System is centred on the CrimTrac agency, custodian of the national fingerprint and DNA databases and inheritor of federal sex offender registers developed by the Australian Bureau of Criminal Intelligence (ABCI) and Australian Federal Police (AFP) over 1995-97. The system encompasses sharing of information across state/territory borders and features the Australian National Child Offender Register (ANCOR).

    In 2002 the then federal Minister for Justice & Customs, Senator Ellison, called on all governments to establish sex offender registers with consistent legislation. That information would extend existing federal data. State/territory governments will remain responsible for monitoring movement of individual offenders within their jurisdiction; sharing via CrimTrac will assist surveillance of offenders who move interstate and "facilitate assistance being provided to overseas agencies".

    Registrable persons must attend a police station near their residence within 28 days of sentencing, release from custody or entry to NSW (whichever is later). Any change must be notified within 14 days. Before travelling interstate or overseas a registrable person must alert the police to each state/nation to be visited, duration of stay, and approximate return date.

    The system has become better over the last 3 years as far as information sharing goes, they are linked much more than before

  6. #46
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Location
    Victoria
    Posts
    1,380
    Thanks
    432
    Thanked
    226
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    I personally think firstly the daycare centre has a hell of a lot to answer for!! Whilst its not their fault that this person has done unspeakable things to some of the children they have a duty of care and a responsibility to all the families in the centre to inform them of what happened, provide counselling and I would really have thought that the police would interview everysingle family whose child may have come into contact with this man. For heavens sakes we are talking about little kids who many not even have realised that something bad happened to them and the police have trained professionals who through play therapy, drawings etc are able to assertain if anything untoward has happened to the child in a non threatening type of way. You need to contact the sexual assault unit at your local police station and I would be urging other families to do the same. As for the daycare centre, I would pull my kids out of there as to me all they care about is money and saving face, it would appear the children nor their families are not that important to them. My heart breaks for you, please tell your DH though you shouldn't be going through this alone you really need his support right now. Sorry about my rant, I am just that damm angry for you right now!!!

  7. The Following User Says Thank You to lovelymum For This Useful Post:

    lovesushi  (30-06-2012)

  8. #47
    Join Date
    Jun 2010
    Location
    somewhere between a rock and a hard place
    Posts
    1,215
    Thanks
    127
    Thanked
    335
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    What a terrible terrible situation, my heart breaks for you and your children and all involved. And I can't believe the Childcare wouldn't document the incident with your Childs bottom. I think I would be going to the appropriate place to lodge a complaint against the Childcare centre. I would dearly hope that someone has set up a Facebook page or the like so this person cannot gain employment with children again. I understand the need to protect the children, but we also need to protect all the other children too. I really wish that this person could be named and shamed, he stole the innocence of a child so why should he's 'innocence' be protected. So sickening!

  9. #48
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Posts
    19,602
    Thanks
    3,256
    Thanked
    4,044
    Reviews
    8
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    What state are you in? I would also be making a formal complaint against the centre.

    I'm so angered by this, not just for your babies, I think carers who abuse children should be in jail for a very very long tIme, but trying to cover it up and gloss it over makes the industry look bad - especially male carers. It frustrates me when people say men have no business in childcare and so this being covered up and treated the way it has helps no one! He should have been ripped apart.

    Also the centre needs to be transparent with parents of children who may have been abused. seriously why they wouldn't have offered one on one meetings with parents and ongoing support for families after something like that. it's exactly as a PP said - they hoped it would be fine. And what makes me sick and angry is the centre were banking on the fact the children were too young to recall. That makes me want to punch people tbh. not just the vile person who abused them.

    *and breath* I was trying to remain calm.

    Sent from my GT-I9300 using BubHub

  10. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Boobycino For This Useful Post:

    Gandalf  (01-07-2012),smallpotatoes  (01-07-2012),Stiflers Mom  (30-06-2012)

  11. #49
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Posts
    12,705
    Thanks
    9,557
    Thanked
    12,687
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 9/1/15Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 7/11/14Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 3/10/14100 Posts in a week
    So sorry you are going through this. It sounds like it was all handled very poorly. Parents should have been more informed for a couple of reasons. Firstly, so they could come forward and provide evidence that might help the case against the man. Secondly, so parents could look after the welfare of their children (look out for medical issues or odd behavior requiring counsellIng etc).

    Good on you for going to the police. I don't know if it will help the case overall, but I'm crossing my fingers for you.

    Could you look at getting a lawyer? A lawyer could help keep police and prosecutors on their toes, making sure your babies best interests are looked after. They could also help look into the possibility of suing (civilly) the daycare or offender and getting compensation (for stress caused, daycare not informing you properly etc). With the type of case it is hopefully there would be someone willing to work on a win-pay basis.

    Best of luck...

  12. The Following User Says Thank You to VicPark For This Useful Post:

    Bunny Lover  (01-07-2012)

  13. #50
    Join Date
    Nov 2005
    Location
    Somewhere in Vic...Bubhubbing!
    Posts
    2,288
    Thanks
    302
    Thanked
    526
    Reviews
    3
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Firstly OP you have done nothing wrong. I know you are blaming yourself for what has happened but you werent to know. You were only doing the right thing by putting your kids in care. Please dont blame yourself.

    Now community child care are council managed so the council would obviously be aware of what has happened. What they should have done was offer counselling services to the parents involved rather then sweep it under the carpet.

    I would highly recommend speaking with whoever manages the community child care at the council and tell them everything. Tell them that you are disapppointed that nothing has been done to help the families and the children. Tell them you expect them to do something about it.

    If they dont do anything I would go to ACA or Today Tonight. You dont have to name and shame the person in question but talk about how it was covered up and nothing is been done to help the families. I am sure the council would do something then.

    Also write everything that you can think of that happened and approximate dates. Even if it seems inconsequential but right it all down. That way its written down somewhere and can be referred to if it gets taken further.

    I dont know how they can get testimoney from kids of such a young age but if you have written down incidences then surely that will have to take it into account.

    I also understand your husband is upset and if he is anything like my DP that "guy" would be long for this earth but he needs to hear whats going on as you cant keep all this on yourself. It will wear you down and right now you need to be strong for your kids.

    I feel so sorry that this has happened and I hope that nothing happened to your children or if it did that they will never ever remember.

    Please take care....seek counselling yourself if you need to. I am sure there must be hubbers here that have some links to services in your area to help you work through this.

  14. The Following User Says Thank You to FluffyDucks For This Useful Post:

    Bunny Lover  (01-07-2012)


 

Similar Threads

  1. Trying to move to cot
    By bigZ in forum Co-Sleeping
    Replies: 2
    Last Post: 22-04-2012, 00:57
  2. Should I move her?
    By sunshinebub in forum General Chat
    Replies: 6
    Last Post: 04-03-2012, 15:52
  3. how often does bub move?
    By 2ndtimemumma in forum Pregnancy & Birth General Chat
    Replies: 7
    Last Post: 29-12-2011, 17:57

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Pyjamas.com.au
With so many gorgeous brands and styles for every season, our pyjamas, nighties, robes, sleepsuits and sleeping bags are lovely for lights out and perfect for lazy days. Get 10% off first order using code bubhub. Be quick offer ends 31/12/16.
sales & new stuffsee all
The Health Hub
Give a new mum a fitness boost for Christmas & New Year. Studio-based, small group training sessions - cardio, strength, core, Pilates & boxing. Choice of 16 hrs per week, flexible-arrival feature - bubs & kids welcome! Gift vouchers available.
featured supporter
Softmats
Softmats specialises in safe, non-toxic, and durable play mats. The international Premium Dwinguler™ Play Mats and Premium Bubba Mat™ range of floor spaces are the best quality in the world.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!