My in-laws live 5 hrs from here and we only see them every few months. They're pleasant enough to my face, but I've overheard them say things to my DH that indicate they don't think I'm good enough for him. They also like to shower us with useless trinkets and then get quite offended if they don't see them in the house the next time they visit. They're quite passive aggressive towards me, full of unwelcome advice and comments.
Mostly we drive to visit them and thankfully they rarely come here, but I have heard a few comments indicating that they intend to come and stay here when DS is born (our first child, their second grandchild but first boy) and visit and stay regularly after that. I really feel that having them stay with us, particularly in the early days when we're getting routines and bf established, would make it very difficult for me to settle into motherhood. I have no history of depression but the very thought of being exhausted and struggling with bf AND their presence in our house makes me want to cry now, so I am actually quite worried about how I'd be affected by it.
Unfortunately DH takes the view that his parents live so far away so they're entitled to good time with the baby and it would be silly to ask them to find alternate accommodation. When I told him I felt uncomfortable with the idea of bringing DS home to a house full of in-laws he told me I had to call them and tell them that they couldn't come. I just wish he'd be some sort of supportive and tell them that WE feel we will need some space, even if it's a white lie for me.
I know that they're entitled to see their grandson and that I'll probably be the worst in the world if I ask them to wait until we have settled in as a family. Do you think I'm being unreasonable? I'm 32 weeks and it's really stressing me out, far more than thoughts of the birth or the baby!