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    I'm the wicked step mum . We do week on/off . This is our first holidays with me not working and dss has been home with me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by faroutbrusselsprout View Post
    My SS is 15, so the decision is really in his hands now. He doesn't want to come over 2 hours away and stay with 3 little kids and a step mum. DH doesn't get home from work until 9 or 10 most nights anyway.He wouldn't want to be booked in to any "care". He's much happier being with his friends and his own town.
    As I said its not ideal in some people's minds but works well for all of us.

    IMO, it's all about what works for you guys. Obviously a 15yr isn't going to want to be hanging out with little people during the school holidays, especially when he could be having fun with his mates.

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    We have court orders to say BF has DD 1/2 school holidays. She will be going to his place early next week for 5 days (less than 1/2 holidays but it was BF's choice). He very rarely has all the days off when DD is with him. She stays with BF's partner, BF's sister or BF's parents if he's working.

    I dont mind that he has others care for her, as thats his choice while DD is in his care as it is when she's in mine. BUT I do feel uneasy as they arent exactly accpeting of DD's special needs and I worry they don't watch her properly

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    I'm a step mum to my DH's 2 girls and 1 boy full time. Their Bio mum has very little interest in her kids. It drives me up the wall as my DH works extremely long hours and I'm raising his kids from morning to night. Their bio mum is meant to have her 3 kids every 2nd weekend and half holidays (court orders) but she pulls the pin when ever it suits her. I hate it do much as I need a break from step kids. One has ADHD and we clash big time. The other two are just painfully painful. I have very little in common with them.
    I have 1 DD and she misses out on so much as I have to always "play fair" so i see the holidays as a time for us together. DH hates my relationship with my DD as he doesn't have the same kind of relationship with his kids.
    I put my foot down as much as possible and tell my DH to find other arrangements if bio mum isn't gonna step up to the plate as I already have them full time and I need a break!!

    It really sux being a SP.

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    This school holidays DP couldn't get time off. I'm working and made it very clear that I cant take leave as I've just returned to work from mat leave. SS is with his paternal grandmother until tomorrow and goes back to BM on Saturday evening. In the times where DP can't get leave etc SS either stays with BM or goes to one of our family members - except for when I was on mat leave, he stayed home with me. Can't do much else, gotta work and need to save my leave for Christmas holidays when care is closed.

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    Dh works fly in and fly out so sd is with me half the time she comes over. We love it as we do all our girly things with dd the week he is away then the week he is home we do all our family things. I have a great relationship with my sd too. Whether or not he is here is irrelevant to be honest as she still has a sister here she spends time with.

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