Mostly I try to do little things like buy him something that I know he likes when I'm shopping (today it was some fresh pickled vegetables) or make him surprise cups of tea.
He hates anyone helping him with anything... so if I try to do bigger things around the house, he says I shouldn't have and feels guilty that I did them etc.
Am very supportive of him taking as much time as he wants to do any recreational stuff... but he never will
Currently trying very hard to be supportive and respect his wishes, whilst encouraging him to seek help for depression. That's a TOUGH balancing act, but he's worth it
I usually get him things like rally car rides, hot air balloon rides, jetski adventures, parasailing, flying lessons, helicopter flights etc. I like letting him experience things that he probably wouldn't take the initiative to book for himself. Besides, he has a terrible habit that if he wants something he just goes and buys it.. Makes birthday presents etc very frustrating if you try to plan ahead!
I've done a few different things, some that comes to mind are:
1: organized a 3 night stay with breakfast and horse drawn carriage wine tour in the hunter valley for his bday (also organized his days off from work so when he was getting ready for work in the morning he was really surprised when I told him he wasn't going in)
2: rally car driving for him and also being driven by a professional driver
3: surprise party for another bday with food etc for all and drinks too
4: for our 10 yr anniversary last weekend I upgraded his wedding ring and got one of my family diamonds put in it he loves it. And took him to rookpool in the city (that alone cost a small fortune!!) And he got me a necklace I've been wanting since DS was born, a diamond pendant.
We won't be doing anything that extravagant again for a long time now, haha
Other I have done are dinners at nice restaurants, concert tickets, overnight hotel stays in the city
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After he supported me through a horrible miscarriage I knew he was hurting just as much as I was so I brought him/us an English bulldog puppy an got the breeder to take a photo with a sign saying "will you be my dad?". Best thing I have ever paid money for. They are truly best mates and love each other to bits!
DH and i do things for each other all the time.
But some of the bigger things I have done for him over the years include:
- Concert tickets to his favourite band, he had no idea until we rocked up to the actual concert
- a car as a wedding present
- other surprises like paint balling and extreme sport kind of stuff
Most of the time it is the simple thing of saying "i love you" that goes a long way
I bought df a Malayan? Sword thing he collects knives has over 500 now 😐
He wouldn't like anything any of you suggested or have done! Which sucks. He's into antiques, down loads his computer games. I got him a ds3 when we had dd so he can play on lunch breaks at work.
Guess I could buy him his surround sound..... But I just think? When will we crank beats with two babies LOL
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