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    Quote Originally Posted by missie_mack View Post
    Whilst I feel for you and celebrate breastfeeding I think this type of mindset is detrimental to society as a whole. Any man there with children isn't there to lust over you feeding your child but is there to use the facilities with their children, as a parent. Their entitlement is just the same as yours to use the facilities. My husband has changed my childrens bottoms on mens stall floors because of the looks/stares/comments obtained from women in the parents room What is worse is that nearly every parent room (and I have done parent room evaluations) have a closed off area for those self concious about feeding
    worse? I love that most parents rooms have a space to feed comfortably.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Justwant2beamummy View Post
    If I was outside the toilets and saw them go in and was going to be there when they came out I would let a 7 year old use the toilets themselves. Definitely by 10 I would let my children have the independence to use the toilets themselves. There are some really interesting research pieces that have been done around not exposing children to risks like gauging when someone is a bit strange, or being able to problem solve if they come out of the toilets and you're not there to meet them. Tim Gill is an academic who has done a lot of research on the topic (his website is called rethinkingchildhood) and some of his studies have shown that adolescents these days take big risks (like meeting someone they met online! Or trusting people who are a bit "off") because many of them haven't been given the opportunity to develop their own risk assessment processes as a child.

    Sorry, a bit off topic! But it's interesting to think about.
    I agree.....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Boobycino View Post
    worse? I love that most parents rooms have a space to feed comfortably.

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    I assume she meant 'what is more' not 'what is worse'?

    Ok I've read it properly - her husband has had to change children on the floor of men's cubicles because women don't want him in a parents room DESPITE the private feeding facilities.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NancyBlackett View Post
    I assume she meant 'what is more' not 'what is worse'?
    cool. that makes sense. I was confused.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Raising Leprechauns View Post
    Oh no - at the local pool we use the family change rooms. This is at a facility dedicated to swimming classes - only a boys or girls change room and just kids and parents - but still - I cant send my wet 5 year old in to the change rooms alone............
    Hmm. That's a tricky one. I haven't had to deal with that yet (DS is 15 months) but I suspect once he gets older we'll be heading home wrapped in towels. I agree with the pp that boys and girls reach a certain age where It's just plain uncomfortable for all if they are getting changed. I know at DD1's school they go back to school in their towels and get changed separately in the classroom. Definitely not a perfect system on a cold day. I just can't believe swimming pools don't have family change rooms. If DH takes the kids swimming to be honest I don't really want my nearly 7 year old getting changed in the mens room.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Justwant2beamummy View Post
    What I got from Mrs E's post was that she realized that afterwards, but was admitting that her initial involuntary thought was uncomfortableness. Is that right Mrs E? Sorry if I've read it wrong.
    ^^^ this is how I read it.

    There was a guy in the feeding section today at the parents room when I went to feed katelyn and a 2 second process of "hey there's a man there... awww he's feeding a baby"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Justwant2beamummy View Post
    What I got from Mrs E's post was that she realized that afterwards, but was admitting that her initial involuntary thought was uncomfortableness. Is that right Mrs E? Sorry if I've read it wrong.

    I got the exact same impression and I have had a similar experience in the parents room breastfeeding when a man came in and I thought "Oh gosh" but then I remembered that it isn't the ladies bathroom. Big Deal, it's not like she made a big issue out of it.

    Anyway, my DS is only a baby so I have no idea when I'd let him into the men's loo alone. Not before 12 most likely. I don't know why other women have an issue with little boys in the ladies anyway? Honestly...

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    My DH was too scared to come into the parents room if there was any women feeding as he said he felt he was making people uncomfortable.

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    Not until high school! I would just keep using the disabled toilets.

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    While i agree with some of Tim Gill's theories not being overcautious with everything with children, this issue is not an urban legend.


    My childhood friends brother was grabbed in a bathroom and forced into one of the stalls. It was after school in a shopping centre bathroom. He was lucky, another man came in and came to his aid, but he was only 11 (year 6) and terrified and this in turn caused him to have a lot of psychological problems later in life. This was 15 years ago now, but i would rather be overly cautious than take the risk. It does happen, probably more than people think. As said earlier, we know a police officer who told us it happens so much more than you'd imagine.


 

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