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    Obviously, danger cannot be avoided completely. But some situations such as those I listed can be avoided with parent supervision. I personally don't leave my kids alone I. The kinds of situations that you listed, but would not consider a patent neglectful if they did.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jennybaby View Post
    Obviously, danger cannot be avoided completely. But some situations such as those I listed can be avoided with parent supervision. I personally don't leave my kids alone I. The kinds of situations that you listed, but would not consider a patent neglectful if they did.
    And most people wouldn't call a parent 'neglectful' if they let their child go alone to the toilet.

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    Personally I can. I'd be mighty hurt and feel betrayed if my DP had a go at me and acted like I had acted irresponsibly for allowing DS to pee alone with me outside the cubicle (as was mentioned by PP). Lots of people have mentioned 'risks' etc when letting children go to the toilet alone. I think it's nobody's business how, when or why our children empty their bladder/bowel.

    I don't give a shiz if people go into the cubicle with their little one. I don't see why people care what others do. It's toileting, it shouldn't be this difficult to grasp that everybody is different.

    Yikes, I just realised how irresponsible I really am. Sometimes I pee in the cubicle next to DS while he's peeing.

    My intention wasn't to make fun of anyone for being in a cubicle with their LO, I'm pretty tired of it being the other way around really and I do take DS into the women's.
    You said you don't care if others go into the cubicle with their lo, but then rolled your eyes and said wtf. So obviously you judge people who do.
    I don't think majority who think it's dangerous are talking about standing outside their cubicle, they're talking about letting their child walk alone to the toilets or letting them go into the males alone while your in the females. Obviously it's unsupervised and you can't see what's going on in there. Some people see it as a risk and aren't willing to take it, it's a completely different issue to abuse by trusted family members and it's not victim blaming.
    I get scared myself when I go to the toilets at a plaza where it's not busy and no ones around, it's so easy for someone to come in and no one hear a thing. I can't imagine ever letting my child go alone if I'm still scared.
    It's called stranger danger, nothing wrong with being vigilent when you can.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alexander Beetle View Post
    And most people wouldn't call a parent 'neglectful' if they let their child go alone to the toilet.
    I dont know, I think a lot would. I floated this issue with a group of friends last night and they all flat out would never take the risk.

    I'm not calling anyone neglectful, but I still think its a risk. Each parent needs to decide whether to take that risk or not.

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    Nope, I know what I meant and what I was thinking when I wrote it. Somebody implied that others should be standing in the cubicle with their child - I said WTF why?

    I still stood with DS in the cubicle until recently, only because he is starting to tell me that he would like privacy and I respect that.

    There is no way in hell I will let DS go to the toilets alone for some time, but others who do differently it doesn't even cross my mind.

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    Actually, I came across this situation today.... I took my niece (9), my DD (5) and DS (1) to Disney on ice. We were waiting in line (right near the toilets) to get some food, and my DD wanted to go to the toilet. The show was about to start in a few minutes so I sent my niece and my dd off to the toilet. I could see them enter the toilets from where I was standing with DS.
    Then DS did a poonami while the show was on and I left dd and my niece in their seats while I took DS down to the toilet.

    It was at Brisbane Entertainment Centre with loads of parents and kids around. I did a risk assessment and felt they'd be fine.

    I guess it depends on the situation. I would have sent DD in by herself if my niece wasn't with us.

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    I will always take my ds into the toilets with me until, well, I don't know. I'll asses that as he gets older. A non issue at the moment as he's almost 4, but the thought of him going in alone kinda freaks me out. But I tend to err on side of caution.

    But as to what others do, I really don't care. I'm not responsible for their children, only my own, and if others wish to send kids in to pee alone, with others, in men's toilets, women's toilets disabled etc, they can do as they see fit as far as I'm concerned.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alexander Beetle View Post
    And most people wouldn't call a parent 'neglectful' if they let their child go alone to the toilet.
    It would depend on the age of the child, I would personally consider it neglectful to send a four year old on their own into a men's toilet. But in general I would agree with you. My post was in response to a pp that said parents were never to blame when bad things happen to their children. It is my opinion that in some cases parents fail their duty of care and in those circumstances they should be partly to blame. You are welcome to feel differently, but I would never forgive myself if something happened to my child when I was completely educated re the risks involved with leaving them on their own and thus I would wear partial blame. As we have established different people have different opinions on this topic.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Benji View Post
    Nope, I know what I meant and what I was thinking when I wrote it. Somebody implied that others should be standing in the cubicle with their child - I said WTF why?

    I still stood with DS in the cubicle until recently, only because he is starting to tell me that he would like privacy and I respect that.

    There is no way in hell I will let DS go to the toilets alone for some time, but others who do differently it doesn't even cross my mind.
    Actually I started this thread and I stated that I was uncomfortable with MY husband leaving MY child alone at 4 years of age in a cubicle when there are other men on either side.

    Where did I say that I thought YOU were being neglectful if you didn't??

    You seem to be MAJORLY on the defensive


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    I would also like to thank everyone who offered their opinions.

    It seems that the vast majority of us will be taking our boys to the Ladies until age 10 on average.

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