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    I would just like to know why it would be a necessity to be INSIDE the cubicle with them as PP mentioned?

    My DD is just 5 and she has been going into the cubicle by herself for ages, while I wait go into another loo, or apply my lipstick or whatever....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mum2EandR View Post
    I would just like to know why it would be a necessity to be INSIDE the cubicle with them as PP mentioned?

    My DD is just 5 and she has been going into the cubicle by herself for ages, while I wait go into another loo, or apply my lipstick or whatever....
    You don't need to be inside the cubicle. Continuing parenting the way that you do, it's fine.

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    You take risks with your kids every single day.

    By always being there watching them unitl they're an adult you may be risking they become unnecessarily paranoid too.

    I'm not someone who is comfortable letting my 7-year-old toilet on her own (I stand outside the cubicle), but I don't believe that those who do are deliberately putting their children in harms way. Yes, it happens, but it's far more likely to happen while in the care of another adult known the parents.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alexander Beetle View Post
    That's great for you. When it comes to sexual abuse my concerns are different. Do watch you like. But maybe refrain from telling people they are putting their kids at 'risk'. Everyone judges risk differently.
    Ok i'll retract that comment. Even though i still think its true.

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    I wouldn't let my child walk off alone to a public restroom, I'd walk them and at least wait outside the cubicle. A small child walking alone in a shopping centre or a park with noone watching them sounds so wrong to me.

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    Why on earth does a parent need to be inside the cubicle with their child? WTF?!

    There is no way I want to embarrass my 6 yo DS by standing with him in the cubicle. Pretty sure if an attacker managed to get INSIDE the locked cubicle I might hear something

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    Haven't read the whole thread as i am sure it would pi$$ me off. But went into the cubical with DD until she was about 6. Purely because people are disgusting and I wanted to limit the amount of things she touched I still won't let her touch me when she comes out and I make her wash her hands twice. Just thinking about it makes me feel ill.

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    Honestly though Benji, if a parent feels better about being in the cubicle, then thats cool.
    They do not need a WTF or an eye roll.

    I still go in to the cubicle with my DD's. Its just how I feel better. Its totally cool that you don't.


    I do not see any parent who allows their child to go in alone, as negligent.
    And as Refresh said, to blame a parent for the work of a sicko, is actually quite disturbing.

    Free range parenting does not mean neglect. Free range is usually thought out and assesed. Neglect is I dont give a rats parenting.

    BUT ...even a neglectful parent is still not inviting sickos in to their lives.
    Our children should be able to walk around alone and use toilets.
    I would love to parent like that and for my kids to be free.

    But life got in the way and made me cautious.

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    No what I didn't appreciate is the implication that parents who don't do X are putting their kids at risk. There is no risk if you stand outside the cubicle. Seriously. I think you will notice an attacker climbing over/under the cubicle. If you want to go into the cubicle with them that is fine - but expecting that others should - yep - WTF?!

    Like Ana though I did go in with him or left the door open until recently for gross reasons lol.

    The biggest risk we take is getting into the car with our kids. And having male relatives and friends. Children are far more likely to be assaulted by someone known to them. I'm sick of all of the victim blaming when it comes to s3xual assault and s3xual predators.

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    I should add that I suffer from anxiety... and I believe a large part of this is due to my dad's anxieties about safety. It's good to be cautious, but OTT causes issues as well. There has to be balance.


 

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