I just don't know if I could trust him again. Not just with the drive to care, anytime alone with the child. As others have said, he clearly doesn't have your sons safety as a priority. Maybe answering the phone will have a higher priority than watching him in the bath? This isn't a small thing and it's happened twice. I don't think I could love someone after that.
I haven't read everybody's replies but thought I would share (so sorry if something similar has already been said).
I was in a car accident when I was 17, broke my femur, my ribs, my nose and was lucky that was all that happened. The accident was not the drivers fault, we were T-Boned by a person running a red light and the car I was a passenger in was wrapped around a telegraph pole. I am a very cautious driver.
Just last week I nearly had a head on collision with a person who decided it was a good idea to turn a corner and drive on the wrong side of the road (passed on the wrong side of the island in the middle). He nearly took us out! I was so mad and could see the person in the other car laughing like it was a joke. At the time I was driving in the backstreets about 500m from where I live. Luckily I wasn't going very fast (about 40-50k) and was able to stop before the moron hit me.
My DD NEVER goes anywhere without being restrained in a car seat. I cannot fathom why any person let alone the childs father would think it is appropriate to take such a risk with such precious cargo.
If it were me I'd tell him to put the child in the carseat as per the law, or pack his bags and leave. Perhaps he needs a wake up call to understand the seriousness of the situation.
Last edited by jbish; 26-06-2012 at 15:37. Reason: spelling errors... lack of coffee
While I don't think it would stop me loving my DF, I would seriously have to consider the safety of my DD, if I were in the same situation as the OP. I agree with Wise Enough that I think a person who would risk their child's safety like this obviously doesn't have the safety aspect as a priority, and it would, for me call into question whether I could trust him to take care of our child's safety. I love my DF, but if he did what OP's partner did, I would not be taking it lightly. I don't expect perfection from my DD's dad, nor does he expect perfection from me, hell, noone is PERFECT, but what I do expect is the very basic's of her safety being put ahead of everything else, and if he couldn't do that, I would have to consider our situation and what is best for my DD.
Op I hope you don't need to worry about this anymore.
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I havent read the whole thread, but could you report him to the police, then they will flag the rego and check hes being safe, everytime they see him.
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