Last edited by Cinderella82; 26-06-2012 at 10:34.
I can think of a thousand better ways to be 'fun dad'. If this day care is so close, why even drive? Walk and explore and have way more fun. Possibly even stop at a park if possible. Much more fun than everyone driving without safe constraints. I'm confused?
Documenting and reporting this is the key. she could leave and deny him access to the child altogether. Until he got it to court, which could take twelve months or more.
Not saying its right to deny a childs access to his father but this behaviour needs to stop before someone is seriously hurt.
I hopped into my cousins car on the weekend as she gave me a lift to the police station to report the accident i was in on Friday. Well she has a 1 year old, a 3 year old and a 5 yr old. There was only 1 old car seat in the middle. I asked her about it and she said they dont all fit properly. Its a brand new car. Not overly small either. I couldnt believe it. She aknowledged they should all be in seats. Would have been the first thing i checked before buying a car. My sister drives with my 6 yr old neice and 7 yr old nephew in no seats whatsoever. Dont think thats legal now either is it?
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Please don't think I'm telling you what to do here, because you have to do what you think is right by your family, but it sounds as if the fearlessness has maybe gone a step too far.
I don't want DD to be a fearful child, and I love that she jumps in the pool at lessons, and all those kinds of things. BUT she also knows that she is not allowed to jump off furniture, and that she has to respect things in the house.
There is a difference between not being afraid to try something new, and being reckless. It's a hard balance to strike, but maybe that's something you could talk to your DH about? It's great to bring up your DS with confidence, BUT that has to be tempered with reason and sense - otherwise he's not being taught WHY there are boundaries/ limits in place.
E.g., It's great if he can jump off things. Not so great if he doesn't understand he can't jump off EVERYTHING.
Fearlessness is great, to an extent. But fear also exists for a very important reason, in that it's a vital survival mechanism. Without fear or boundaries we run the risk of living recklessly and dangerously.
Perhaps it could be worth trying to approach with your DH from that angle? Maybe try talking to him about the lessons what he is doing teaches your DS - that laws don't matter, and that rules don't matter. Not great lessons for a toddler to learn!
(Not trying to come across as a know it all, either. Just another suggestion. )
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