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    Quote Originally Posted by Brightsilverstar View Post
    Beside the fact I couldn't bare to see my son like that... I told my dh if our son had even broken an arm in the stunt he pulled I would've killed him, he said you wouldn't need to as he would've done it himself...
    I would 1000% rather be standing there looking at a picture of my child in a coffin rather than be standing over my child's coffin.... Which is a very likely outcome if his reckless behaviour continues. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but it is the truth.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Girl X View Post
    As an example, my DH will let DD climb high play equipment, and encourages her to be a little bit fearless. He is there to catch her if she falls, and his reasoning is that he wants her to have confidence in her physical abilities. I'm a little more cautious. However, I understand that the worse case scenario is that she falls, and DH catches her, or he partially catches her, and she injures herself a bit on the way down.
    Yep our son is already pretty fearless and dh enjoys that and is really proud that our son is willing to do more than other children his age. For example I take our son to swimming lessons and he was the first and only for a long time to jump off the platform or run down the mat to me. BUT he also jumps of the top of lounges and runs his sit on cars into walls etc

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bunnyhugs View Post
    Except that if this is documented and reported, you are well within your rights to deny him unsupervised access to the child.
    The thing is I didn't see either of them, he admitted them and he would never admit them to anyone else, I also don't think he'll be silly enough to do it again.

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    I can think of a thousand better ways to be 'fun dad'. If this day care is so close, why even drive? Walk and explore and have way more fun. Possibly even stop at a park if possible. Much more fun than everyone driving without safe constraints. I'm confused?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Annabella View Post
    Yeah I dunno, I think if it went to court, they would just say he had to have them properly secured at all times in his care. I doubt they'd stop him having his kids unless they caught him a couple of times. It wouldn't be worth the stress for me personally.
    If it was properly documented, then the claims have to be investigated and he would have to have supervised access/visits with the children in an approved centre where he would be assessed by trained professionals as to his parenting ability.

    Documenting and reporting this is the key. she could leave and deny him access to the child altogether. Until he got it to court, which could take twelve months or more.

    Not saying its right to deny a childs access to his father but this behaviour needs to stop before someone is seriously hurt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MamaNurture View Post
    I can think of a thousand better ways to be 'fun dad'. If this day care is so close, why even drive? Walk and explore and have way more fun. Possibly even stop at a park if possible. Much more fun than everyone driving without safe constraints. I'm confused?
    When it's sunny he takes him by scooter... So it's only only the wet days I assume he has done it

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    I hopped into my cousins car on the weekend as she gave me a lift to the police station to report the accident i was in on Friday. Well she has a 1 year old, a 3 year old and a 5 yr old. There was only 1 old car seat in the middle. I asked her about it and she said they dont all fit properly. Its a brand new car. Not overly small either. I couldnt believe it. She aknowledged they should all be in seats. Would have been the first thing i checked before buying a car. My sister drives with my 6 yr old neice and 7 yr old nephew in no seats whatsoever. Dont think thats legal now either is it?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Brightsilverstar View Post
    The thing is I didn't see either of them, he admitted them and he would never admit them to anyone else, I also don't think he'll be silly enough to do it again.
    I'd be contacting daycare. They have a legal responsibility to report it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LillyPonds View Post
    It is illegal for any child to sit in the front seat under the age of 12. Did you know that if a child is sitting in the front seat of a car that has air bags and they are in an accident that the air bag can kill them?

    The bones in their face are not mature enough or developed enough to sustain an injury to the face. It pushes the bones into thier brain KILLING them.

    My 11 year old son used to ask me all the time if he could sit in the front and I have ALWAYs said NO.
    I know people who have under 12's in the front seat all the time. My cousins 5 yr old jumped in the front as they left my house on the weekend


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    Quote Originally Posted by Brightsilverstar View Post
    Yep our son is already pretty fearless and dh enjoys that and is really proud that our son is willing to do more than other children his age. For example I take our son to swimming lessons and he was the first and only for a long time to jump off the platform or run down the mat to me. BUT he also jumps of the top of lounges and runs his sit on cars into walls etc
    It's good to be willing to do those things, but it sounds as if he may also need to know some boundaries.

    Please don't think I'm telling you what to do here, because you have to do what you think is right by your family, but it sounds as if the fearlessness has maybe gone a step too far.

    I don't want DD to be a fearful child, and I love that she jumps in the pool at lessons, and all those kinds of things. BUT she also knows that she is not allowed to jump off furniture, and that she has to respect things in the house.

    There is a difference between not being afraid to try something new, and being reckless. It's a hard balance to strike, but maybe that's something you could talk to your DH about? It's great to bring up your DS with confidence, BUT that has to be tempered with reason and sense - otherwise he's not being taught WHY there are boundaries/ limits in place.

    E.g., It's great if he can jump off things. Not so great if he doesn't understand he can't jump off EVERYTHING.

    Fearlessness is great, to an extent. But fear also exists for a very important reason, in that it's a vital survival mechanism. Without fear or boundaries we run the risk of living recklessly and dangerously.

    Perhaps it could be worth trying to approach with your DH from that angle? Maybe try talking to him about the lessons what he is doing teaches your DS - that laws don't matter, and that rules don't matter. Not great lessons for a toddler to learn!

    (Not trying to come across as a know it all, either. Just another suggestion. )

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