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    Quote Originally Posted by jessicajane86 View Post
    Hmm That's a big assumption.. We don't know the circumstances.
    Apologies, I admit it could have been a cappucino.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    It's called over exaggerating to get a point accross.

    The point: There's a reasonable chance that this poor kid does too much work (that should be done by the adults) instead of playing.
    I don't know how many kids you have or their ages but my DD1 would have given her favourite toys away if it meant she could have carried her brother around in a baby carrier. To know that I trusted her that way means so much to her. I also know if DD didn't want to help you couldn't make her. You know nothing about this family.

    I was not just referring to this post when I asked my question, but I think I got my answer anyway.
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    This thread makes me think about how I am judge by others without them knowing anything about me or my kids,

    Being a mum of 6 and letting ds1 carry ds3 around the shops. The funny thing is I would never allow my kids to change a nappy even my adult dd has never done one. I don't let my kids be mini parents in fact that my biggest saying "your not the parent".

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    Quote Originally Posted by loving6 View Post
    This thread makes me think about how I am judge by others without them knowing anything about me or my kids,

    Being a mum of 6 and letting ds1 carry ds3 around the shops. The funny thing is I would never allow my kids to change a nappy even my adult dd has never done one. I don't let my kids be mini parents in fact that my biggest saying "your not the parent".
    I agree. I am constantly stunned by how other people judge what other people are doing when they are just going about their lives. I never notice what other people are doing TBH. If I'd seen this girl at the shops if I had noticed and thought anything it would have been "how lucky is her baby sibling to have such a lovely big sister".

    I also don't think carrying a younger sibling is the same as parenting. Nappies yes, but not carrying. I could list all the other things DD1 does (and without pocket money) but I'm worried people will call DOCS on me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Why should the kid be lumped with looking after the baby while the mum is off (having a latte?).

    oh no...i am so guilty of this one.

    DS played chasings on the grass with DD while I selfishly lined up and got a mocha today....and 2 babycinos and some donuts for us all to share.

    How terrible he got lumped with her...all that laughter and happiness must have really hurt him.

    Not all kids see taking care of their younger siblings as a bad thing...from my experience...most of them love it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by ElastiGirl View Post
    A child will not carry something that their body can't handle. They will also put the child down when they get to heavy. In my culture, and many around the world, this is a normal family setting.
    You haven't met my son then lol!! He will literally be bending over backwards struggling with his dads pack back.
    Also, he is two loves to push his brother in the pram, i just don't think a busy tourist spot is the time for it.
    And just to add, just because you discuss what you have seen other parents doing does not always mean you are judging them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by loving6 View Post
    This thread makes me think about how I am judge by others without them knowing anything about me or my kids,

    Being a mum of 6 and letting ds1 carry ds3 around the shops. The funny thing is I would never allow my kids to change a nappy even my adult dd has never done one. I don't let my kids be mini parents in fact that my biggest saying "your not the parent".
    This thread made me a bit sad too. My kids are still allowed to be kids but they help as well! I think it;s good for them. What made me the saddest though was my first thought was 'Oh good, just another way for parents to judge each other!'

    Can relate SO much to 'you're not the parent' line, haha

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    Quote Originally Posted by Refresh View Post
    This thread made me a bit sad too. My kids are still allowed to be kids but they help as well! I think it;s good for them. What made me the saddest though was my first thought was 'Oh good, just another way for parents to judge each other!'

    Can relate SO much to 'you're not the parent' line, haha
    I agree.All this judgement because of a glimpse of a girl carrying a baby at a busy tourist spot. Suddenly she has no childhood.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alexander Beetle View Post
    I agree.All this judgement because of a glimpse of a girl carrying a baby at a busy tourist spot. Suddenly she has no childhood.
    It's laughable when you word it that way isn't it!

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    My 8 year old vacuumed and took the rubbish out today No childhood for him!

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