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    Quote Originally Posted by ToughLove View Post
    I was one of 9, all born between a year-2 years apart, and I was carrying the infants from about 6 years up.

    Mum would be there, of course, to watch out, but I would carry them everywhere
    My mum was the same. The second oldest of 10, most born a year apart, some even less (how my grandparents found the time to make so many I'll never know). The older ones were given a younger one as their own, to carry, change, keep an eye on etc. As others keep saying, it's perfectly normal in many cultures.

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    DD1 carries DS1 all the time. She's a very strong almost 7 year old and he's a heavy 15 month old. She loves it. But if he gets too heavy or squirmy she puts him down very carefully. I also agree that in so many parts of the world this is completely normal. I was the youngest of 4 and my oldest brother who was 8 when I was born got me up in the morning (once I was 8 or 9 months old), carried me downstairs, got me breakfast etc.

    As for developing spines, my DD would never carry DS long enough for it to hurt (not at all like being pregnant). My DD was desperate to help when DS came along and I figured I was better off showing her the safe way to do things rather than her doing it behind my back.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alexander Beetle View Post
    My mum was the same. The second oldest of 10, most born a year apart, some even less (how my grandparents found the time to make so many I'll never know). The older ones were given a younger one as their own, to carry, change, keep an eye on etc. As others keep saying, it's perfectly normal in many cultures.
    I always feel sorry for children placed in this position, i think all children have the right to be children and not little parents.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mumma inky View Post
    I always feel sorry for children placed in this position, i think all children have the right to be children and not little parents.
    I can't speak for them all but in my experience with big families most kids love the responsibility and enjoy a special bond with the sibling. I get where you're coming from but I also think kids benefit from participating in a family by having jobs and responsibilities.

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    Why should the kid be lumped with looking after the baby while the mum is off (having a latte?).

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    Quote Originally Posted by mumma inky View Post
    I always feel sorry for children placed in this position, i think all children have the right to be children and not little parents.
    Sure, it's not my go either, but it's different in other cultures.

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    For me personally, I would be comfortable with my DD using a supportive carrier over a short period of time to carry an older baby if she asked. But this would be when she's a lot older (8+) anything younger than that I would be concerned over her spacial awareness to judge where to move with the baby attached.

    Keeping in mind we don't know the age of the girl or the weight of the baby or really, how far away the mother really was in the OP - its too hard to judge her actions as wrong or right.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Why should the kid be lumped with looking after the baby while the mum is off (having a latte?).
    Ok ... I'm going to bite. Why do you post things like that?

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Why should the kid be lumped with looking after the baby while the mum is off (having a latte?).
    Hmm That's a big assumption.. We don't know the circumstances.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    Ok ... I'm going to bite. Why do you post things like that?
    It's called over exaggerating to get a point accross.

    The point: There's a reasonable chance that this poor kid does too much work (that should be done by the adults) instead of playing.


 
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