DH can't stand my family.
To the fact he says they are not welcome in our house when he is there.
Now I know some people have really really really bad families...
and I'll admit mine are a little messed up, but in general it's just he doesn't like them as people.... personality clashes.
He has no respect for my Dad or Mum and thinks they are absolutely useless, brainless, arrogant dopes.
He can't stand my sister... and she IS one of the rudest people I know.
I find it hard because while I can see why he doesn't like them or want anything to do with them... they are my family. And I do.
So while I'm happy to take the kids there, or have them out when DH has taken a couple of the kids to his Mums... I don't really know what to say to them when they ask me why they never see DH or why he never comes to anything.
He says he's given them 10 years, and they haven't changed, he just likes them even less...
I love them, but I don't like them all the time. They are very frustrating.
DH hasn't even seen his own brother in 2 years (because he doesn't think they have any values in common) or his maternal grandmother for 15 years.
He'd drop everything for his Mum though... as would I, she is a person worth her weight in diamonds.
So what do you do? Say? How do you balance it when your partner wants nothing to do with your family?