I am struggling with a troublesome pregnancy this time (#2) and have been asking for help from friends and family.
My Mum is already getting on my nerves and I don't know if I can cope asking her for help anymore.
When she does something nice for me(or anyone) she expects a celebratory parade of thanks. She gets mad if I don't make a song and dance about her amazing kindness and what a great Mum she is. It drives me nuts!!! I can barely walk, let alone look after my toddler with ease and with her constant neediness I feel like she is being selfish.
A simple thank you is not enough and she sulks if she does not get her required level of appreciation. When she asks if I need anything she will only do it if it suits her, if I say No, please don't do that i really need this other thing done. She flounces off and argues with me, telling me I don't appreciate her. Or just ignores my No and does what she wants. I then end up in the same place without help doing the things I can't.
She is always been really childish, but I cannot keep on dealing with what feels like two babies in my condition.
I feel like I am better off getting help from others to save my sanity. But DS loves her so much and she gets really jealous and stropy if I ask MiL for help.
I know she loves us, but I feel like she is just so needy of attention that she ends up picking a fight with me about everything. From how I discipline DS to me not eating the soup she made me fast enough. It is like the conflict makes her feel important and she needs to have her opinions on everything made to be the most important. Who cares about DS and my opinions on raising our child.
I know I need to have boundaries, but she does not listen to my "No Mum" just sees it as a chance to argue
Has anyone else got a controlling, manipulating mother who they have managed to tame? I don't want to have to cut her out during this pregnancy, but the friction is getting to all of us.