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    My bf boy has been bulling my son at school for a couple of weeks now. I thought they would sort it out themselves but it is getting worse. They were good friends on and off for 5 years. The boy is verbally abusing him saying things like he has not got any friends and physically hitting him. My son is no angel and has been in trouble for hitting at school.
    The problem is my bf hates people saying anything about her kids and gets all funny about it. She seems to make excuses or put it back onto the other child..
    I want to say something but not sure how. Should I tell her child to stop quietly or let the school deal with it (which they are hopeless at)
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    ild just come out and tell her, if she dosnt do anything, im sorry but she cant be a good friend.

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    Definitely your child comes before the friendship. I would have to say something. I would just tell her straight up that there's a problem at school and you'd love her help in sorting it out. If she's really your best friend she will care about your boy as if he's family.

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    I would talk to her about your concerns. You wont know how she will take it unless you talk to her. But I think discussing it could be a good way to help get the ball rolling on a resolution. I hope it all works out for you.

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    Thanks for your replies - ill sleep on it tonight.

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    I'd approach it along the lines of "I think we have a problem, our kids aren't getting along, DS seems to becoming out the worse and I'd like us to sort it out before the school gets involved "

    You must, however, support your son over the friendship.

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    its definitely a good idea for you both as parents to get involved - kids rarely work it out on their own without negative consequences .

    it also teaches kids to get parents involved when they are being bullied rather than trying to deal with it on their own.

    maybe try to find a way that you are comfortable with, especially if you are there when it happens. It's one of those things where I suppose there is no easy way to do it - but as long as you are being sensitive to her as his parent then that is all you can do.

    good luck

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    I would talk to her.
    Don't accuse her son just maybe ask if she knows what's going on with the boys and how to fix it


 

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