I need some advise here! My mum is having major heart surgery next week and she lives interstate. I have been planning to fly up and stay with my parents when she is home for a week or so to just be with her and help support etc.
The plan has always been for just myself and (4mo) bub to go, but I'm thinking that I'd like to also take our eldest dd (7). DP is 'not into the idea AT ALL'.
His points are that :
It's not fair for our other kids (5 and 4yo). He thinks the others will be devastated at missing out.
She'll miss the first week of school term.
My points are :
We have to take turns flying our kids up as it's so expensive to all go. I have said before that I'd like to have one at a time come with me.
I think that it is a great opportunity for me and my dd to have special time together.
I don't think missing the first week of term is a big deal at all. dd is very bright and sailing along at school.
dd can be helpful with holding baby etc and will be great to have there for my mum too.
I said 'It's not about people missing out - it's about being there for my mum. It's open heart surgery ffs! Can you just think about it and we'll talk about it after work?'
He said 'Just book the tickets I don't know why you bothered asking you just do whatever you want anyway...'
It's always a bit of a 'thing' when I want to visit my folks. He's always been a bit funny about the possibility of missing out on milestones with the babies and spending time away from each other etc. I just want him to say 'That's a great idea love! It'll be so good for you to have that time with dd and your mum. It's important.' Instead I'm being made to feel guilty for separating the family unit and playing favorites.
Am I being unreasonable???