I have no idea what to do, I'm so angry and upset right now. I seriously want to suffocate my MIL with a pillow!
My third baby was born with breathing difficulties. She coded at 22 hours old and has several times since. She spent the first two months in hospital and has been readmitted three times since. She was released on oxygen at home and needs periodic monitoring. The doctors told us at the hospital to follow SIDS recommendations to the letter because just because she's on oxygen doesn't mean she can't suffocate.
My MIL has both my girls for the night tonight. I was a bit nervous about letting her take DD2 as she hasn't listened to me in the past when I've told her not to put her to sleep with a pillow but DP told me he'd ask his SIL to check and make sure she wasn't letting her sleep with one. MIL posted a picture of DD2 on Facebook a few hours ago and low and behold, she's asleep on a pillow in her portacot. I didn't see the picture until an hour later and msged SIL to ask if she could take it out. She said fine and then msged back that she had tried to but MIL had told her not to and to just tell me that she had. So I rang MIL and asked her nicely to please not let her sleep with a pillow, explained about SIDS safe sleeping and how it was her doctors orders and that it made me very nervous. She was really nice, overly nice in fact, and assured me she had taken it out. SIL msged me shortly after I got off the phone and told me she hadn't in fact removed the pillow. I'm so angry, not only do I feel like she is risking my babies life for nothing, I feel really betrayed that she has lied to me. I want to just go around thee and take my baby and throw the bloody pillow in her face, but DD1 is there and I don't want to cause a scene in front of my toddler, and if I go round there at all there will be a scene
There's no way I'm going to be able to sleep tonight