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    Default Prenatal depression

    35 weeks I have all the love and support I could ever need from my fiancé, mother and sister.
    Fiancé knows I'm depressed and is very worried
    I am so ashamed to tell my mum and sister because Iv always been the "strong one"
    Every one keeps saying how together I have it all and how well I am going to do being a mum,
    I don't feel motherly at all I am scared I am going to see this little helpless baby boys face and not get that instant love motion come over me
    I'm scared I'm going to just get frustrated and angry when he cries or not know what to do
    I feel very much lost right now always on a brink of a panic attack
    I went to see my dr today he said basically to see a shrink, I don't feel comfortable talking to them I have tried befor I have had an been medicated for anxiety and depression in the past,
    I am just scared I won't be able to give this baby the love it needs...

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    I have no doubt that you will be able to give your precious boy EVERYTHING he needs.

    It is totally normal to feel overwhelmed & unsure waiting for bub to come AND in the first few weeks/months.

    Is he your first?

    With your history of anxiety & depression you are at high risk for PND (you probably already know that) and there is NO shame in seeking help for it.

    It sounds like you have a wonderful supportive partner which is the most important thing.

    Dealing with my depression in the past it has helped to remember I do not NEED to tell anyone I don't want to. If you dont want to tell your family, you do not have to, it is your personal medical business & no one elses. It is not a part of you. It is an illness you can overcome.

    If you are not happy with your GPs advice, get a second opinion. Someone who will listen to what you want.

    Find alternatives, like natural medicine? (I know mustering the effort can be difficult and maybe this is something your DH can help with?)

    I know it not the same but you have slot of online support here too

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheSudgestionator View Post
    I have no doubt that you will be able to give your precious boy EVERYTHING he needs.

    It is totally normal to feel overwhelmed & unsure waiting for bub to come AND in the first few weeks/months.

    Is he your first?

    With your history of anxiety & depression you are at high risk for PND (you probably already know that) and there is NO shame in seeking help for it.

    It sounds like you have a wonderful supportive partner which is the most important thing.

    Dealing with my depression in the past it has helped to remember I do not NEED to tell anyone I don't want to. If you dont want to tell your family, you do not have to, it is your personal medical business & no one elses. It is not a part of you. It is an illness you can overcome.

    If you are not happy with your GPs advice, get a second opinion. Someone who will listen to what you want.

    Find alternatives, like natural medicine? (I know mustering the effort can be difficult and maybe this is something your DH can help with?)

    I know it not the same but you have slot of online support here too
    Thank you yeah he is my first,
    natural medicines such as what?
    Dr said if I am the same after his born then maybe looking at getting back on the medication but I didn't like the way it made me feel
    I prefer natural remedies being pregnant though the only thing I have been attempting is lavender oil in a bath or on a pillow and trying to relax but only helps so much

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    I'd recommend speaking to a naturopath.

    I only go to my doctor these days if I think DD or I need antibiotics, otherwise I see our family naturopath.

    ATM I'm taking 3000mg of fish oil for anxiety, it only took a week and a bit to start 'working' (and I have terrible anxiety- sweats, shaking, nausea, irritability, fainting etc)

    My sister takes zinc pills (I think they're zinc but I can't remember sorry) also for anxiety but rather then a daily dose, she takes one when feeling anxious.

    There are soo many other things out there other then 'serious' medicines. Don't get me wrong, they do have their place, but they are not nessessery for everyone.

    If you are a long term anxiety/depression suffer, you should consider asking your GP for a blood test (to test vitamin and mineral levels). Some Vitamin & mineral deficiencies symptoms are pretty much exactly the same as depression/anxiety symptoms.

    My sister has suffered anxiety for years before discovering (while pregnant) that she can not absorb vitamin B, and is now getting injections every 3 months.

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    Seeing a naturopath is a fantastic idea. Especially if the idea of taking meds turns you off. Some people I know swear by herbs and others felt that herbs didn't do much for them.
    Also, check your progesterone levels after bub is born. Women with low progesterone levels are more likely to suffer from depression. Progesterone is a natural antidepressant and a relaxant. You'll have to find a GP who's interest lies in hormones but it's worth gettin it checked out.

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    Thanx everyone I will look into it a bit more

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    Hi, I know exactly how you are feeling! I am around 6 weeks pregnant (it was planned) and for the first couple of weeks I was really happy, however now, like you, I feel like I have made a massive mistake and am wondering if a termination is the only answer. I have a 2 year old daughter and I cannot carry on like this - I cry all the time, feel so down and just want to feel normal again. There is no way I can feel like this for months to come - it's not fair on me, my daughter or my other half. I had thought that as I'd had a brilliant pregnancy with my daughter, this one would be the same but I just feel so detached! Right now all I can focus on is my daughter and other half, and this pregnancy is like an intruder on our happiness.

    It sounds awful, actually writing these feelings down but ignoring them doesn't mean they are not there. I am going to the doctors today, to get this sorted out ASAP, and have researched pre-natal depression so I will not be told that it's just pregnancy hormones. I will do whatever I have to, to get back to my normal self, as I will not let this affect my family.

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    Please go see the counsellor ... I had pnd with my first (untreated); ante natal dep with my second (untreated); and pnd after she was born ... It took two years for me to get the treatment I needed ... My marriage was nearly gone and I lost all joy in my amazing babies.
    Dh used to look at me like I was a crazy b!!ch (I was). But I was so good at hiding it no one else knew what was happening ... I was incredibly lucky that we were away camping and my big bro caught me at the exact moment to suss out what was going on - 2 days after we were home I started treatment and have NEVER looked back.
    I will never forget having to tell my wonderfully supportive Mum who was devestated she never picked up on it.

    So pls don't wait

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    Quote Originally Posted by Inlonka09 View Post
    Hi, I know exactly how you are feeling! I am around 6 weeks pregnant (it was planned) and for the first couple of weeks I was really happy, however now, like you, I feel like I have made a massive mistake and am wondering if a termination is the only answer. I have a 2 year old daughter and I cannot carry on like this - I cry all the time, feel so down and just want to feel normal again. There is no way I can feel like this for months to come - it's not fair on me, my daughter or my other half. I had thought that as I'd had a brilliant pregnancy with my daughter, this one would be the same but I just feel so detached! Right now all I can focus on is my daughter and other half, and this pregnancy is like an intruder on our happiness.

    It sounds awful, actually writing these feelings down but ignoring them doesn't mean they are not there. I am going to the doctors today, to get this sorted out ASAP, and have researched pre-natal depression so I will not be told that it's just pregnancy hormones. I will do whatever I have to, to get back to my normal self, as I will not let this affect my family.
    Hugs please do ... I felt so guilty with my second pregnancy


 

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