I've read so many different books, forums and blogs, received advice from my midwife and government support services on sleep and settling techniques and with my baby being 15 weeks old, I roughly follow the eat, play sleep routine and a lot of the time it works but not always.
What I find is that they are all based on ideals and textbook situations but none seem to factor in things like wind, reflux, over tiredness, growth spurts etc.
Sometimes my DD doesn't follow these textbook rules on things. For example at 3 months she 'should' be awake for 1.5 to 2 hours between day sleeps but often after a feed and a short play (40-50 minutes) later she's showing tired signs - yawning, rubbing her face and jerky movements so I wrap her up, rock her in my arms till she does some big blinks then I put her down to sleep and rock her body side to side until she's asleep. Well that's how all the books say it should work as I've fed her, played with her and once I saw her tired signs wrapped her and put her down, but she won't take her dummy, she kicks up her legs, looks like she's got wind (goes red in the face) etc and I can't get her to sleep. As such she gets cranky, cries kicks her legs in the air etc till she's overtired and won't sleep!
What am I supposed to do in that situation? Did I put her down too early given it was only 50 minutes but was showing tired signs? Or when I'm trying to get her to sleep and she's overtired and refuses do I keep rocking her in her basinette to get her to sleep or get her up?
The last time this happened, I got her up and fed her and played with her again, but the tired signs didn't come back then she was seriously over tired and we were back to square one but then she's screaming as she's soooo tired and is even harder to settle.
Does anyone have any advice or can recommend any good books or authors who teach you what to do when the technique/routine goes awol?
Thanks so much!!
EDIT: Thank you for your responses related to ditching the books and advice etc. I'm finding though that without any advice, I have no idea what to do with my baby still. Everyone says you know whats best for your baby and to follow your instincts, but I feel I don't have any as what ever I try 9 times out of 10 doesn't work. on the odd occassion it does but I think it's ore of a fluke.
I need some advice on what to do when my baby either won't go down to sleep in the first place or what to do when she wakes after 20 or 40 minutes. Do I just keep trying in vain or should I just get her up and wait until she's tired again?
She has silent reflux so I need to keep her upright after her feeds for at least 20 minutes, so if I try and top her up (I formula feed) she doesn't usually take it but also needs to be held upright for another 20 minutes before I try and put her down again, so that solution doesn't work.
What does everyone else do when faced with a cat napper or a baby who won't nap to start with?