I am a undercover hubber, I have been on this site for years but I don't want to risk people i know seeing this.
This morning DH got a txt from a girl i didn't know, I looked at the msg and the convo was about them meeting up at some time!!
I freaked out and hid DH's phone and sent him off to the shops so I could snoop, he was FREAKING out about not being able to find his phone and alarm bells were going crazy. He finally left.
There were txts from 2 girls i didn't know. completely inappropriate and sexual. So I opened his facebook and checked his msg's 2 more girls, more sexual conversation!!
I dead bolted the doors and refused to let him in when he got home. I called his mother and told her to come get him because I didn't want to see or hear him.
he has been calling and msging non stop. I finally gave in a spoke to him. He promised me there was no sex and they never even met, he even said he felt nothing for them and was using them to make himself feel good because he feels like I hate him (we fight 24/7 and our relationship has been BAD for ages now). He is taking full responsibility and even let me read all the conversations, he has been crying, begging my forgiveness, saying he is scrum for leading the other girls on and betraying me. He wants counselling and for us to at least be friends for the sake of our kids. He is sorry blah blah blah.
He would NEVER have told me if I hadn't found out. It has been happening for on and off 2 years!!! not every day chat but once every few months constant sexual talk
I don't know what to do. I have been miserable for so long and wanted to leave before all of this, but now this has happened and he is suggesting counselling, I'm actually thinking of going!!
I dont know what to do! I don't know where to go from here. I have not stopped crying!! I don't want to tell anyone because even after all he has done, I don't want everyone to hate him. Though his family will now know and are apparently ignoring him.
I just want advice or something, i dont know what I want tbh...