Reading about birthing on your back, it is NOT a natural position and you actually have gravity working against you. Gravity is working against you as its pushing against your pelvis and stopping the baby coming out easily....on OBEM most of the woman are actually in a sitting position so they have the gravity helping them give birth.
With DS, I fully intended to have an active birth. However, once I was in labour (was induced at 42 weeks with ARM, but was already 4cm dilated), I felt nauseous every time I got upright, so I laboured in a reclined position (not fully flat) as I sucked on the gas. DS needed vacuum assistance to come out and at that point I was put flat on my back with stirrups. DS was born 7.5 hours after ARM. Wasn't a wonderful birth, but wasn't too bad and I don't regret any of it.
With DD, totally different story! Suddenly went into labour at home at 12noon, contractions were 2 minutes apart from the get-go. Mum rushed over to get me, I laboured sitting upright in the front passenger seat of the car, then sitting upright in the wheelchair that the midwives brought to the car (was in no way able to walk up to the labour ward!).
DD was born just 16 minutes after I got into the delivery suite, only 6 minutes of stage 2, didn't even push her out, she just practically fell out with me standing up! That labour was just 3 hours all up at 41 weeks.
I did have one contraction laying down during her labour (somewhere in the 16 minutes of being in the delivery suite) when they got me on the bed to check how dilated I was. That contraction was AWFUL.
Now that I've tried labour both lying down and standing (drug free), I can say for sure that standing up hurts tonnes less than lying down. The difference was incredible. But like I said, I just did what felt best at the time with my first, no point beating myself up about it.
I had an emerg caesarean so I only laboured up to 6ish cm. I fully intended on standing, walking around etc during labour, however I found standing incredibly painful. Plus i had monitoring, although the midwife wasn't insisting on me lying down.
Turns out DS was posterior which I think was causing the extra pain while standing.
After my pethidine shot all I wanted to do was lie down! I wasnt flat on my back, i was reclined and I delivered DS with the end of the bed lowered from about my bum down. So kind of like I was sitting on the bed rather than lying (tricky hospital bed!).
I have nothing to compare it too, but I after my delivery I said to DH " I'd do that again" (and am in November lol!) so it couldnt of been that bad!
I went into labour without any particular wishes on positions, just to go with whatever was comfortable and stay active. I ended up on my back half reclined. It was fine.
This time I'll just be doing whatever the heck feels right at the time too. Although I might request a birthing stool this time to give it a try. I really felt like it might have been comfortable last time, but this is a whole new labour so who knows.
I was induced so I had to be monitored, I spent the first couple of hours just sitting in a really comfy chair sucking on gas, then spent a little bit of time in the shower bouncing on a fit ball, followed by kneeling on the bed with the mattress right up leaning over the top. Started pushing in this position but DD got stuck and heart rate started dropping so got rushed through to another room where I ended up flat on my back, legs in stirrups whilst they used the vacuum to pull DD out. I much preferred kneeling to lying on my back!
Throughout my labour I was in and out the shower, pacing, on the exercise ball and standing holding onto dp. All I really wanted to do was lie down as I'd been up since 1 am with contractions and gave birth at 6 pm, but the pain was worse lying down. When it came time to push my midwife suggested on all fours so I gave that a try and it was 100 times more painful. I ended up birthing dd on my back with dp holding one leg back and sil holding the other!
I ended up being on my side in the foetal position for the first stage unable to move or really speak due to the pain and then after trying various positions during the second stage, lying on my back holding onto my knees was how I ended up and found it to be easier to push that way. Strange because I always thought gravity would help if you were on your knees but it didn't for me - both labours.
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