I think she came across as exactly what she was complaining about, judgemental and ridiculing.
If somemone asks I will tell, but I don't often offer up my birth details, to me they were a very personal time, where DP was heavily invovled the whole way, where the end results was that DP and I got to welcome a new child into our lives.
But I think hte judgement goes both ways. Recently I have felt heavily judged for my vaginal, drug free births.
I was basically told that an elective c-section was a far more civilised way to deliver a baby.
Some of the things that were said were,
the birth was planned at a reasonable hour, no middle of the night birth for her
it was quiet and serene, no pacing or moaning or groaning
after she looked lovely with her hair and make up neat, but I would have looked sweaty and dishevelled.
The list went on, so that birth 'smugness' that was talked about can come from either direction.
I did resent the fact that Mia made out that the birth was no big deal. Maybe for her the way her birth went didn't matter, for others the journey is just as important as the destination.
As I said earlier, there's a difference between feeling proud of your own achievements and feeling superior to others.
Lamby, I know what you mean...But ( always a but) she is being like that herself.
Saying she would rather poke herself with a sausage, and the disdain she shows for that womans choice is superior behaviour.
My lady bits are just awesome despite a horribly traumatic vaginal birth.
I would imagine one who underwent a caesarian would be quite hurt if I said "DP just loves my intact stomach"... just as that comment is hurtful to those who had vaginal births - both who are still 'intact' (which most are) and those whose husbands still love them dearly despite some damage down there.
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