My 2nd midwife at public (I wasn't really focusing because I was laready pushing at that stage) but she was about 50yrs old, Vietnamese and had about 30yrs experience. My doula and dh said she didn't talk much, but she knew what she was doing. I give her full credit for me not having any damage and she was open to everything like delayed cord clamping etc. And when I was tired and wanted to put dd down, she was like no no baby needs to be with you (skin to skin). I loved her, didn't talk much but thats all you need!
I had an awesome midwife (60ish I would guess, and very experienced) for my second birth too (vbac) she knew that I wanted a natural birth. So when the resident came in and said I should have a csec, she asked why. The answer? "because we want to go home".
Her response was : p!ss off and come back when you have a proper reason.
Your story about the second birth made me think and realise that most of the midwives I had post csec in hospital weren't so bad. Quite nice and helpful with bf'ing actually.
So I hereby cancel my request for a midwife bashing session.
All my midwives post care both public and private were awesome. No I wish I told the 1st 2 to get effed, but I was scared and in pain, dh was useless and fainted during my epi and I just had no energy to care. That first midwife came to see me the 2nd day aswell, but she just had no idea and I look back and they really just wanted me in bed and to be quiet like I was bothering them?
I didn't have anything in the room like a fitball, was never offered a shower or anything natural for pain relief. At the public hospital the birthing suites were amazing, big bath, equipment. People tell me the same private hospital had that stuff, but I never saw it and was never offered anything.
As for Mia F, well I think she really does like to be provocative. I'm actually starting to wonder if that is her intention actually, given the handful of her articles I have read.
She had a piece about food intolerances that left a really bad taste in my mouth (no pun intended haha)
It's a shame really, given how influential she probably is.
nat - that is awful. How disrespectful
Whoa. What a cow.
I think everyone will agree that there are good and bad eggs in every profession. What I get upset about is those generalist comments along the lines of "obstetricians are of no use, and want us all to have cesareans so they can go and play golf and drive their BMW".
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