I find the whole "well you have one healthy baby" comments really dismissive of my experience.
Yeah, on the positive side I have one "healthy" baby (who was tube fed, FTT, and has Erbs palsy)
I did however have one baby die, my uterus fall out, have permanent pelvic damage, was cut and tore horribly, was resuscitated after bleeding out, and spent 1 total of 2 months in hospital.
So yeah, the birth was a pretty important life event for me.
And this upcoming birth will be too, regardless of my first experiences.