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    I actually found this article offensive and dismissive. Quite frankly I'm sick of hearing 'at least you had a healthy baby' like somehow I didn't want that. I desperately wanted a VBAC for my 2nd birth bc 1) it's the safest way and 2) bc the wonderful method of 'keeping my lady bits intact' actually led to severe physical and emotional trauma. I mean my god, what a birthzilla I was when I left the ob's surgery balling my eyes out finding out I had to have another c/s!

    Quite frankly I couldn't give a damn how others birth. But I want to experience what my body was designed to do without major abdominal surgery. If that's birthzilla or competitive then meh.

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    You joined just so you could inform all of us that your lady bits are still intact?! Um, can anyone else smell a troll?
    Yes, but don't feed the trolls girls

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    Quote Originally Posted by hopefully2 View Post
    I think society places too much emphasis on the birthing of a baby rather than the raising of a child. It's kind of like focusing on your wedding and not on your marriage.
    Both things happen way too much and I do agree, I try to understand the other POV, but I just can't.

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    Re lady bits... There are pros and cons to caesareans, and it's natural that those who have had them often like to focus on the pros. Intact lady bits is one of these.

    No need to make it into something else .

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    Quote Originally Posted by lambjam View Post
    Re lady bits... There are pros and cons to caesareans, and it's natural that those who have had them often like to focus on the pros. Intact lady bits is one of these.

    No need to make it into something else .
    What is intact bits though? they don't remove anything? yes for a couple of months for *some* women they aren't as.... firm. Yes some tear, but it heals and the firmness returns.... or so I'm told lol

    It just makes it sound like a non c/s birth is somehow unsavory....

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    I'm literally shaking after reading that article. I had a live baby at 31 weeks who weighed the same as about three packs of butter. I am grateful, but the way he entered the world....no one could ever understand unless they've been there.
    It was delivered in a crass way, too. I'm sorry it left you feeling this way

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    What is intact bits though? they don't remove anything? yes for a couple of months for *some* women they aren't as.... firm. Yes some tear, but it heals and the firmness returns.... or so I'm told lol

    It just makes it sound like a non c/s birth is somehow unsavory....
    We all know that vaginal births can result in permanent damage... permanent pain, loss of sexual sensation, incontinence to name a few. No matter how small a risk you perceive this as, the risk becomes zero when you have a caesarean. For some women this may be the only comfort they can find in the whole thing. Why not let them have it?
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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    I'm literally shaking after reading that article. I had a live baby at 31 weeks who weighed the same as about three packs of butter. I am grateful, but the way he entered the world....no one could ever understand unless they've been there.

    In trying to be an advocate for one group of women, she's managed to entirely alienate another. I'm so sorry it has hurt you.

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    Perfectly written in my opinion.
    Weddings are not what we should focus on, they are one step.
    Same as birth, one step.

    I don't think she was demeaning birth, just asking mums to stop judgment of different births

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    Quote Originally Posted by october View Post
    Perfectly written in my opinion.
    Weddings are not what we should focus on, they are one step.
    Same as birth, one step.

    I don't think she was demeaning birth, just asking mums to stop judgment of different births
    At the same time knocking homebirths and birth plans.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lambjam View Post
    We all know that vaginal births can result in permanent damage... permanent pain, loss of sexual sensation, incontinence to name a few. No matter how small a risk you perceive this as, the risk becomes zero when you have a caesarean. For some women this may be the only comfort they can find in the whole thing. Why not let them?
    No you misread what I mean. Just as I had trauma from my c/s I understand this happens with vb. I also understand why these women chose an elective next time around. My issue is the language. Intact, meaning nothing removed. They don't chop off anything. I guess my thinking goes to circ, where intact is well, with a foreskin.

    I wasn't intending to minimise the trauma of vb, just dislike that wording...


 

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