There are some people (SOME) who don't realise that yammering about their perfect birth just constantly reminds those of us who've experienced birth trauma how things went poorly for us.
Ahh but that's right, they're just being proud of their good birth that happened after their bad one. Damn shame they care more about yelling their pride from there rooftops than they do about woman who don't HAVE that solace.
Just a thought.
Well excuuuuse me Mia but my son's birth is absolutely the most important event that has ever and will ever happen to me in my entire life. Not to mention the most important/life-changing physical experience I'll ever have. I don't care if it wasn't that important to you, but stop judging me for allowing it to become a pretty important part of my life's journey. And if I want a friggin birth plan for such an event it doesn't make me a "birthzilla" (so rude!) it makes me prepared and informed. Such a bizarre attitude!
the whole argument about what type of birth is better is just proof that people feel insecure about their own choices. Those who feel secure in their own choices do not need to put others choices down even if they don't agree with them.
there is enough pressure on women. Let's support other peoples choices even if we don't agree with them.
I have a small scar down there.
That does NOT make me damaged goods.
My back also has a scar from having a mole removed. Probably bigger than my scar down there. My back is still "intact".
I do agree with you that a CS can be just as beautiful and exciting and special as a VB - but comments like "well MY thingy is intact" are exactly the kind of comments that will have people like your SIL saying stupid things back because those who have VBs have to listen to the same old arguments, too. Funnily enough my ex SIL told me right before I was about to give birth that I would have haemmrhoids and all of these horror stories, none of which happened but she said all of this because she had caesarians and asked me how I was birthing. Should've replied none of your damn business
Well all going to plan, my partner will have to deal with a caesarean-scarred belly AND a vagina that has birthed a baby. Poor man. He'll probably have to leave me... in search of someone with a flawless belly or a honeymoon fresh vag.
Welcome to the body of a vbacer, Sassy!
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