Ok so the lady bits comment didn't go down too well...
Bit of background relevant to the article. I had a terrible birth experience with ds 1, perfect pregnancy, 1st pregnancy with no prior loss, was naturally apprehensive about the birth, dh didn't help, he has a very big head and assured me all members of his family did. Anyway I was progressing fine in the delivery room, but got to 9 cm after about 24 hours and nothing else happened. After 30 hours and many nice voice requests, I had to put on my evil lady voice and demand a CS. It was OK except that the epi didn't work and I could feel the whole thing. Final result was a healthy baby and a sore and disappointed, but generally happy new mum.
FFwd 6 months down the track during a txting argument with my bish of a SIL and she pull the 'You will never know the joy of natural childbirth' insult. I didn't know it was a competition until then and I felt so hurt and like my sons birth was second rate because this woman who had 2 natural births decided to make it an argument piece. My reply to her was childish. It was along the lines of 'well at least my dh is still satisfied by my undamaged vagina.' Immature I know, but boy it felt good at the time. SO when I read the article the first thing that popped into my head was that response when I was attacked about the 'failure' of a birth experience I had with my first.
Sorry if I offended anyone, and I'm not a troll, just new.
Sorry if I offended anyone, and I'm not a troll, just new.[/QUOTE]
Haha I guess we all got a little defensive about our lady bits hehe! Birth choices and experiences are so personal and topics will always get heated!!
I will be having a birth plan and I will want it followed as closely as possible. Personally I have to have a plan as it is my way of feeling have some control which is very important for my mental health. However if it was necessary at any time for the plan to be scrapped for my health or the health of the baby then so be it! The only thing that would upset me is if I had to have an epidural (not because I don't think it is needed!) because I have an extreme phobia of needles and I know how much it would distress me at the time and after.
Most important to have a support person who will not only support you emotionally and physically but you can trust to advocate for you if necessary.
I don't care if you had vb or cs and I hate the signatures water birth etc ... Who cares? I don't feel the need. To add a signature saying my dd was born in car why? How is it relevant?
You have choices about these things and there are reasons people choose to do them and not to.
Who is Mia Freedman?
To someone who is reconciling all kinds of conflicting emotions and coming to terms with their surgery and all its associated cons, this kind of pro can be something to hold onto. I'd be lying if I didn't feel grateful for my caesareans every time I read about women with permanent damage caused by child birth.
I can see why some people are getting upset about the article, but I still see she isn't meaning it the way most are taking it, she means about the hoity toity up themselves mums who look down their nose at intervention births like you haven't really had a real birth experience if you had intervention, drugs, c/sections. Those mums do exist.
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