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    I don't think hitting a child should be legal. Infact the notion we can hit kids, yet be charged for hitting an adult is absurd.

    For the sake of the thread, if hitting children *had* to be legal then my guidelines would be:
    - open hand
    -bum only (fully clothed)
    - no marks or injuries left (must be soft enough)
    - not done in anger (calm voice)
    - adult must explain what was done that was wrong
    - no older than 6 or 7

    I was 'smacked' as a kid and remember the absolute fear from mums words "you wait until your father gets home." I knew that meant a belting. I was so fearful i used to chuck wobblies ("oh well im going to cop it anyway!").

    Nothing was ever explained to me, I never got a chance to explain why I did something (eg I once got smacked for going up the 'really' tall slippery dip at the park which I wasn't supposed to. I was only 5 and My parents didn't want to hear that I was actually petrified of a stray German sheppard dog that was walking in my direction).

    Last time I was 'smacked' was by my mother at 16. I told her if she hit me, I'd hit her back. And I did. Parents that smack older children are just bullies and they lose their power once someone stands up to them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bada View Post
    Just out of interest, what would happen if the adult was say a sufferer of dementia, who couldn't just be told to walk alone - much like a child I suppose.
    Like being in charge of a child, you learn as you go. I'd have to be in charge of such a person to know what to do and I would have to be in certain situations then make the decision that would create the safest outcome.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    I don't think hitting a child should be legal. Infact the notion we can hit kids, yet be charged for hitting an adult is absurd.
    It is illegal in many countries.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hers&Hers View Post
    I was smacked and i really dont despice it, usually with a tree branch. It never embarassed or huniliated me because it was never in public or with an audience, i was smacked till about 13. My kids get smacked with a wooden spoon for DD and sometines tree branch for DS, it works i have never smacked them more than two occasions for doing the same incident, they always know its coming i tell them no a certain amount of time and then it comes. When i will stop will depend on them.
    Just FYI smacking with an object is illegal in Australia and classified as abuse.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hers&Hers View Post
    I was smacked and i really dont despice it, usually with a tree branch. It never embarassed or huniliated me because it was never in public or with an audience, i was smacked till about 13. My kids get smacked with a wooden spoon for DD and sometines tree branch for DS, it works i have never smacked them more than two occasions for doing the same incident, they always know its coming i tell them no a certain amount of time and then it comes. When i will stop will depend on them.
    Fairly certain this is assault with a weapon!

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Parents that smack older children are just bullies and they lose their power once someone stands up to them.
    Agreed.
    When you use force, you lose power.

    Smacking is not ok in our home. Ever.

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    Quote Originally Posted by share a book View Post
    Oooh lol, I guess around 6 when they can be better reasoned with and understand why to do things or not to do things. And I think under 3 is too young. That's how I feel anyway.
    Sounds about right to me. When they can start understanding and responding to more complex reward/discipline systems and reasoning and negotiations.

    However a lot of examples in this thread are of very incorrect/harmful smacking technique. Any discipline technique can go bad when wielded inconsistently, with emotions, and ineffectively. I believe if you are still NEEDING to smack over the age of 5/6 then you haven't been doing things effectively and you've missed the boat!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hers&Hers View Post
    I was smacked and i really dont despice it, usually with a tree branch. It never embarassed or huniliated me because it was never in public or with an audience, i was smacked till about 13. My kids get smacked with a wooden spoon for DD and sometines tree branch for DS, it works i have never smacked them more than two occasions for doing the same incident, they always know its coming i tell them no a certain amount of time and then it comes. When i will stop will depend on them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bell & Bug View Post
    Just FYI smacking with an object is illegal in Australia and classified as abuse.
    As it should be.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bell & Bug View Post
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    I don't get the whole reason that people will stop when their kids understand, or are easier to reason with. Isn't that even more reason not to smack them, because if they don't understand what they are doing wrong, how will thy understand why they are being smacked?
    Just my opinion on this cause you asked.

    I believe little kids just see a smack as being in trouble and meaning they did something wrong. They take notice, it pulls them up short. Little kids don't understand long explanations or reasoning. Kids don't think deeply and philosophically about things e.g. "heeeey Mum smacked me because I bit her, that's repaying physical pain with physical pain and is contradictory and doesn't make sense to me". They simply think "ow, I'm in trouble, better not do that again". This is massively conditional on the proper technique being involved of course.

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