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    Quote Originally Posted by share a book View Post
    If an adult refused to wear a seatbelt in my car, I would make them get out and walk. Can't do that with a child.
    I've had as many as 5 kids in my car at a time and if any of them refuses to wear a seat belt the car doesn't go. Never smacked a kid, never will.

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    For us it was about 8 years old we felt it was not appropriate and rarely effective. There is many other forms of discipline that work better. I did the 123 magic parenting course and it explained that a child needs to be coached into using their brain to develop pathways to make good decisions on their own. Otherwise they can have issues of not thinking before they act. This definately makes sense. (of course it was explained better!)

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    I'd have to agree with a PP that smacking is humiliation. Most parents who do smack say that it doesn't hurt, but it sure as heck is a form of humiliation for most kids. If not all.

    I think if very young children are put in dangerous situations, WE as parents are the ones who have done the wrong thing, not them. They don't understand death/electrocution etc but we sure as heck do and it's up to us to keep them safe.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    I've had as many as 5 kids in my car at a time and if any of them refuses to wear a seat belt the car doesn't go. Never smacked a kid, never will.
    I have also had 5 kids under 8 in my car and I had one occasion where dd was smacked once. In over 300,000km of driving. I did the right thing

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    Minchi - I'm so sorry you had to live like that. That is just awful. It's stories like that that make me determined NEVER to smack my children.

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    Quote Originally Posted by share a book View Post
    If an adult refused to wear a seatbelt in my car, I would make them get out and walk. Can't do that with a child.
    Just out of interest, what would happen if the adult was say a sufferer of dementia, who couldn't just be told to walk alone - much like a child I suppose.

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    Quote Originally Posted by share a book View Post
    I have also had 5 kids under 8 in my car and I had one occasion where dd was smacked once. In over 300,000km of driving. I did the right thing
    That's great for you. Me, I wouldn't smack in any circumstances. Just my opinion.

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    And in response to the OP, I've always wondered this! My friends smack their ten year old all the time, and I'm just waiting for the day she whacks them back! I'm gobsmacked that ppl use weapons to hit their kids too, my parents did this also and I just can't imagine how anyone ever thinks its ok to use a freaking object to hit anyone, let alone a small defenceless child, things are really really out of control if you are using objects to hit your kids

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    I was smacked and i really dont despice it, usually with a tree branch. It never embarassed or huniliated me because it was never in public or with an audience, i was smacked till about 13. My kids get smacked with a wooden spoon for DD and sometines tree branch for DS, it works i have never smacked them more than two occasions for doing the same incident, they always know its coming i tell them no a certain amount of time and then it comes. When i will stop will depend on them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elijahs Mum View Post
    If smacking works does that mean everyone has only ever hit their child once?
    Err right... because the definition of effective discipline is that you only need to do it once. If any method like that exists, please enlighten us.


 

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