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    If smacking works does that mean everyone has only ever hit their child once?

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    I wasn't smacked as a teenager - I think once we could outrun Mum or we didn't care if it happened, etc, it no longer worked so my parents moved on. We were probably around 9 or 10.

    I have smacked but prefer not to and rarely do anyway so its not really something I've thought about... but I guess I'd stop when she was a pre-teen or whenever it stopped working.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elijahs Mum View Post
    If smacking works does that mean everyone has only ever hit their child once?
    My daughter takes about 3 times to learn things. Like I have not only said "stop" once.

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    No I get that words and teaching them right from wrong takes time but physical punishment is quite severe so my thought was for people that say it works, if it works then they would never do the wrong thing again because they are scared of being hit? Its just the few people I know who smack seem to always be smacking their kids!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elijahs Mum View Post
    If smacking works does that mean everyone has only ever hit their child once?
    You could use this with every form of discipline. If it works you should only have to do it once.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elijahs Mum View Post
    If smacking works does that mean everyone has only ever hit their child once?
    Once or twice per incident usually. Then there is no reason too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elijahs Mum View Post
    No I get that words and teaching them right from wrong takes time but physical punishment is quite severe so my thought was for people that say it works, if it works then they would never do the wrong thing again because they are scared of being hit? Its just the few people I know who smack seem to always be smacking their kids!
    I can't speak for others, but if I had to be smacking/yelling/putting them in time out or there room/confiscating things all the time I would rethink what I was doing. I'm not a yeller, have smacked a couple of times and don't use time out, so I find personally I don't have to do anything all the time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by swizzlestick View Post
    We don't smack in our house, because I still remember the shame and embarrassment of being smacked (or even threatened) and to me that memory of shame is an indication that the line should have been drawn earlier. If a child is old enough to feel embarrassed and shame by something instead of the 'lesson' of the smack, it's too old! Does that make sense??
    Totally agree. I remember my mum slapped me on the face in the supermarket when I was 10 or 11 and a boy from my class saw. I was so embarrassed and humiliated. I remember when I was 13 my dad tried to hit me but I went bad and hit him and pushed him and screamed my head off. Lol Blissed Out we used to run away too- pretty comical in hindsight thinking of mum chasing me up the stairs while I hid in the toilet!

    Bell&Bug: I don't think there is a right age. *maybe* 3-10 and only very mild smack. Even writing if our makes me feel bad

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    I too was smacked as a child and despised it. I was also smacked in public and found it humiliating.

    I think it's a bizarre thing that it's acceptable to smack a child for doing something wrong or dangerous, but if DH did the wrong thing that was dangerous (eg when we were driving somewhere) it would be ridiculous for me to smack him. I just don't get it.

    I admire those who say they don't smack in anger. Everyone I know who admits to smacking says shamefully that they do it in anger. That really distresses me. I know when my mother hit me it was in anger and I knew how much it scared me.

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    If an adult refused to wear a seatbelt in my car, I would make them get out and walk. Can't do that with a child.


 

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