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    A smack with my hand on the butt.

    Nothing else, ever.
    I've had a belt, thing and bottle used on me growing up. I won't ever use those on Ds.

    I know someone who smacks their child with a thong, someone else with a wooden spoon and someone else smacks their child across the face.

    I guess a smack on the butt til their old enough to be reasoned with but generally I try and use words instead
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    We don't smack in our house, because I still remember the shame and embarrassment of being smacked (or even threatened) and to me that memory of shame is an indication that the line should have been drawn earlier. If a child is old enough to feel embarrassed and shame by something instead of the 'lesson' of the smack, it's too old! Does that make sense??

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    Using physical force to discipline my kids is something I really don't agree with.

    But, for conversations sake we'll discuss my mothers 'line'... she stopped hitting us when we started hitting her back... and took up throwing things (plates, cups, ornaments, shoe brush, books) instead so she had a head start in running away before we showed her what happens when you hit people.

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    I was smacked as a child. It was always on the bum and the worst was with a riding crop. ONCE. Never again, because we never over-stepped the line to get worse. It wasn't done in anger though, I still remember the look on my dad's face the day he did it, it was sheer regret.
    For reference, wooden spoons didn't work because we used to giggle because our pants would always be enough to stop it from hurting lol.

    I think dad said to me when I was about 10 that I was too old to be taken over the knee and that from now on he would just put me on a curfew. It was essentially "You're old enough to know now, I'm going to give you the choice".

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    Smack - open hand on the bum or on the hand once.

    I was smacked with an open hand and threatened with a rolling pin (never eventuated) by mum as a child. She stopped smacking when I was 6 cos she said she could reason with us then.

    I'll probably stop smacking once you can reason with the child - age and child dependent but I'm guessing 3/4yo.

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    Last time I was smacked was 17, and I nearly had my dad charged with assault. My parents never had a line. Smacking never worked anyway (does it ever?), we just got better and covering our mistakes/lies/whatever.

    I don't get the whole reason that people will stop when their kids understand, or are easier to reason with. Isn't that even more reason not to smack them, because if they don't understand what they are doing wrong, how will thy understand why they are being smacked?

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    I smack to prevent danger, eg if ds runs on the road.
    I think once he understands you can't do those things he won't be smacked anymore

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    I was never smacked and DD will never be either.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bell & Bug View Post
    Noooo, I mean at what age? Like, what makes you stop smacking, ever? Is it a particular age, for example?
    We stopped smacking when we realized it wasn't having any effect on DS. It was only ever a smack on the butt or hand that would sting for a minute or so.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bell & Bug View Post
    Last time I was smacked was 17, and I nearly had my dad charged with assault. My parents never had a line. Smacking never worked anyway (does it ever?), we just got better and covering our mistakes/lies/whatever.

    I don't get the whole reason that people will stop when their kids understand, or are easier to reason with. Isn't that even more reason not to smack them, because if they don't understand what they are doing wrong, how will thy understand why they are being smacked?
    I find that smacking works. The immediate pain affect of the smack works better that the possible future more serious incident. Then the threat of a smack elicits a memory of pain and is more effective again than explaining or reasoning with a toddler.

    Once they understand that running in a car park can be dangerous then they can be reasoned with.

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