I actually don't know any grown men who refer to their manhood as a penis*. They use the c word, generally. I have been told off by male friends for using penis as a term because they think it sounds too medical. And I wouldn't want my partner talking about my vulva either. It just isn't an attractive word. I do use technical terms with my children, but when they are old enough to not use them on the bus I will probably go with colloquial terms.
* or testicles. Definitely never heard testicles. Not even from a British dude.
We say Vagina, Penis and bottom.
ETA I have numerous times called it a Vag, but quickly corrected in relation to my children!
DP calls his a penis. Or a bunch of other crass things, but penis gets used too.
I call my vagina random stupid things too, if I think being vulgar is going to better suit the situation and make people laugh... lol... but it's when people actually choose to say vagina, but whisper it (and not because there are people around listening either)... it weirds me out.
I dunno, I'm one of those people who thinks we'd all be a lot better off if we weren't so scared of discussing our various body parts... and I think a start to that is at least feeling comfortable with using words.
Of course, nobody uses correct terminology for everything, but there are acceptable "layman" terms for many body parts that EVERYONE uses and understands. There seems to be no such words for our genitals and so I don't see the problem in using the right ones.
I think using nicknames is ok, as long as they are used interchangeably with actual genital names. I had the mother of one of my DD's friends come to me upset that my DD had argued that a vagina was a vagina and not a "Mary". This was in prep!
Mine still say giny, peenie occasionally, and bottom, but they know vagina/vulva/penis/anus etc.. just like they say noggin, tummy, piggies but know they are heads, stomachs and toes.
Correct terms will be taught in this house because they are just words and body parts. Nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. Also for to afford them more protection against abuse. They need to be able to say the words if the worst was to happen. It means that there is no way there is a misunderstanding of what is happening.
Though having said that DS is 2 1/2 and knows it as his doodle. But most people would know what a doodle was. We also say penis, but doodle is what he recognises it as.
I personally prefer the term 'Vajingo', aka Elliot style (from Scrubs). It makes it sound... sparkly
I am a big believer in using the correct terms for the correct body parts, so it will be vag1na, pen1s, and chest for our DD. I will also teach her about her body and appropriate touch, and that there are some parts of the body that are more private than others, etc, so when she is older, I'll tell her that she can call them girl bits/ boy bits if she prefers to do so - for example, if telling her teacher, where she got hit by a ball in the playground. However, I do believe it is important that she refers to and understands correct body terms first.
I call my son's penis his penis.
"X, when you finish doing a wee you need to shake your penis"
When he pointed to my vagina in the bath and said 'poo' I said "no, that's where mummy does wee's" and that was it. If he asked I'd call it my vagina.
It works well for us.
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