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    Yes, he does have a point, but the reality is that sometimes as mothers it is very hard to appreciate if it is out of our control, naturally we feel helpless, and when it is our children it can be very upsetting... Glad it was a fairly positive outcome.

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    I'm really glad to read that it worked out ok!
    As far as not trusting your dh judgement, I honestly don't think that's what is going on here. i think you are in an incredibly difficult position being so far away. your dh is able to make a decision based on so much more sensory input (what the babysitter looks like,how she talks, how she interacts with your child, etc) than what you have. It's the fear of the unknown and unseen. i think you have every right to be anxious

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    I can understand you DH being a little hurt BUT I think your instincts were right. I also suspect (although of course I could be very wrong) that he would not have been so concerned and receptive unless you had made a big deal out of it.

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    Yes he has a good point but so do you hun!! glad it worked out and is over!!

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    I know my dh is not the type to think of the worst case scenario, of course he loves the kids, wants them to be happy and safe, but he doesnt think the way i do, and that makes me uneasy.

    So i can totally see both sides of it, but im still with you, totally withing regular mum rights to be worried when they are so far away.

    I saw this documentary which stated that pessimists live longer than optimists, hahaha dh is always pointing out i always think of the worst case scenario, and i say "and that my friend is why i will out live you all!!!"

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    Great to know that everything went well!

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    I know my dh is not the type to think of the worst case scenario, of course he loves the kids, wants them to be happy and safe, but he doesnt think the way i do, and that makes me uneasy.

    So i can totally see both sides of it, but im still with you, totally withing regular mum rights to be worried when they are so far away.

    I saw this documentary which stated that pessimists live longer than optimists, hahaha dh is always pointing out i always think of the worst case scenario, and i say "and that my friend is why i will out live you all!!!"
    I agree with this. My DH can be insulted too by the things I double check. I just remind him that it is my personality to worry, not blame him, so it has nothing to do with him but everything to do with my own personality. However... that's just what I say most of the time, because even though it is technically true about my personality being the problem I also think that the reality is my DH wouldn't think to double check the things I do, or doesn't place the same importance on things without me being upset about it.

    Diamond.. so what you are saying is that everyone is going to DIE and I am going to be ALONE (that's the real pessimistic response... your cheerful response to outliving everyone shows how uncommitted to the cause you really are)

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    im glad it worked out ok. id also be hesitant to leave my kids with a stranger, i dont even like having extended family babysit if i dont know them well.

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    I personally wouldn't mind because my child would be asleep by 9pm.

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    That's great that everything went well. I understand what your DH is saying but he has the luxury of being there with her, you don't. You are on the other side of the world and whilst no doubt you trust him there is always that feeling of loss of control of your children (even temporary and to their dad) that I think is natural response for a parent.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TinyLittleTootsies View Post
    Great to know that everything went well!



    I agree with this. My DH can be insulted too by the things I double check. I just remind him that it is my personality to worry, not blame him, so it has nothing to do with him but everything to do with my own personality. However... that's just what I say most of the time, because even though it is technically true about my personality being the problem I also think that the reality is my DH wouldn't think to double check the things I do, or doesn't place the same importance on things without me being upset about it.

    Diamond.. so what you are saying is that everyone is going to DIE and I am going to be ALONE (that's the real pessimistic response... your cheerful response to outliving everyone shows how uncommitted to the cause you really are)
    Ill out live everyone and then need help and there will be no one... Typical.


 

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